10 Ways To Help Kids Cope With Japan

The heartbreaking stories and images of the disaster in Japan are difficult for adults to comprehend. What about the children? How do we explain this tragedy to our kids?

Here’s a quick story: As an educator, I (and a few others) had to make a decision whether or not to start school in New York the day after 9/11. It was a painstaking decision. While the school was a little over an hour from the disaster site, the whole school community – teachers, parents and children were worried and grieving. One of the reasons we chose to open our doors as planned on Sept. 12th was that we knew children develop a deeper sense of empathy when they are given the tools to cope with difficult circumstances. I believe that teaching environmental and global awareness to children is paramount.

10 Ways To Help Kids Cope With The Disaster In Japan

1. Provide accurate information. There’s no need to give all the details, but use the opportunity as an age-appropriate teachable moment to provide information.

2. How much information is too much? Give simple answers to questions. Filter the information that they won’t understand out.

3. Provide reassurance and validate children’s feelings. Show them you care and tell them you are worried too. Kids find comfort in knowing that their day-to-day world is intact. Stay as much on schedule as you can.

4. Should you let your child watch tsunami news coverage? That’s up to you. If you chose to watch the news, it is advisable to watch it with them. Even older children who have access to a multitude of media information need to be monitored. Just being available to answer their questions and provide a chance to discuss the images, makes children feel safer. Most TV news programs tell you when scenes are graphic. Opt not to watch those with children. Keeping the news on 24/7 will only heighten children’s anxieties.

5. A little bit of knowledge can go a long way. The U.S. Geological Survey has a site that explains the magnitude of earthquakes in terms that children can understand.

6. The New York Times shows amazing satellite photos from the tsunami site. By moving the slider from side to side on the comparative images, older children can see the changes before and after the disaster.

7. Share an uplifting story. Even though this tragedy is so horrific, children find solace in hope. A hopeful story such as the one from the Wall Street Journal about a man who has to leave his two dogs behind, but comes back to find them safe, provides hope. Tell them about how the Save The Children organization is establishing “Child Friendly Spaces” to give children a safe place to play with their friends, while allowing parents to focus on other priorities.

8. Lead by example. Children want to help too. If kids feel that they can help alleviate the suffering, it will make them feel less hopeless. If you are donating money to help with relief efforts, involve your children in the decision-making process. They may want to designate their donation to go to children and animal related relief organizations.

9. Teach children about Japanese culture and discuss why it is important to respect and understand about the traditions of others. An understanding of a global community in times of need can be comforting.

10. Give them a hug. It goes a long way.

Just think how big the payoff would be if every parent takes this horrific tragedy and uses it to encourage global awareness, empathy and a giving spirit in their children.

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57 comments

Winn Adams
Winn Adams3 years ago

Thanks

Teresa Wlosowicz
Teresa W.3 years ago

I thought you meant Japanese children...

Brenda Towers
Brenda Towers3 years ago

Thanks.

Eternal Gardener
Eternal Gardener4 years ago

Ta!

Linda Bishop
Linda McCaughey4 years ago

i find myself in total agreement with jay, whose comment no longer appears here. tell your kids the truth.

Linda Bishop
Linda McCaughey4 years ago

why are only 30 of the 47 comments visible? are we into redacting, now?

Lindsey Williams
Lindsey Williams4 years ago

Thank you so much for posting this. I have a little sister who means the world to me and she is at the age where she is taking a stonger interest into important social issues like the Taiji Dolphin Slaughter...she wants to see footage of that and of the tsunami but I have only showed her videos with very mild stuff...no blood...but this article does help thank you.

Rita B.
Rita B.4 years ago

thank you!

Eliza T.
Eliza T.4 years ago

I thought this article was a nice reminder not to get caught up in the horror- without paying attention to how this horror if effecting our kids. Kids pick up the energy of those around them- and when we don't balance the horror with equanimity and HELPING the kids can feel terrible vulnerable. Thanks for this article!

Loo Samantha
Loo sam4 years ago

thanks for the article.