101 Days of Passion: Relationship Revival Tips (Page 3)

Feel the Love
Five right-now suggestions for renewing your relationship.

Redecorate your room. Clear the clutter, kick out the TV, and create an appealing, intimate environment. In Just Do It: How One Couple Turned Off the TV and Turned On Their Sex Life for 101 Days (No Excuses!) (Crown, 2008), Doug and Annie Brown turned their bedroom into a “love den,” stocking up on candles and luxurious sheets and removing unromantic distractions from the walls and dresser tops.

Set the alarm 30 minutes earlier. This guarantees a window of uninterrupted time with your partner every morning, for talking or cuddling.

Schedule a weekly date. Protect it with your life. And use it to enjoy yourselves, not to pay the bills.

Start working out together. Doug and Annie Brown joined a yoga class and found it far more inspirational for romance than a night on the town. What’s more, exercise stimulates dopamine and enhances romantic attraction.

Renew a shared interest from your early courtship. Did you used to ride bicycles together? Go to the dog park? Ice skate? Marital therapist Willard Harley, PhD, suggests that we fall in love with the people with whom we have the most fun, so it’s worth the time and effort to head out — even when it might be “easier” to stay at home.

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Jennifer U.

8:00PM PST on Feb 20, 2013

Interesting read, I'm not facing any of those sorts of issues at this time but incase I do, I have additional information.

February 20
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Ob K.

5:06PM PDT on Mar 20, 2012

i think this is great advice for newly weds. something to try and accomplish each year, take one a day and show you care!

March 20
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Jayaraju B.

6:03PM PST on Mar 7, 2012

thanx

March 7
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Stella P.

12:12PM PST on Mar 5, 2012

It's great how seniors are getting in on the action, just because you're in the golden years does not mean you need to sleep in separate bedrooms, that's so 1980's!

I love how older people are encouraged to share passion like in their younger days, it keeps the heart healthy too (in fact I think i just saw another article and this site about coffee, sex & health. Chat with a helper on www.theadulttoyshop.com and they can guide you to some good ideas, furthermore the guides are very good on that site as well and I'm a huge advocate of their items mainly because there is no adult x-rated material on there, it's not that kind of site so any couple can browse knowing there won't be anything that will make you feel uncomfortable.

Also, it seem like the aging population is now left at home alone since all their kids (myself included) have now moved out of the house and live on their own, making their own lives. I always wondered my my parents seem to much happier when I go back home in the holidays to visit ;)

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Pat W.

10:17PM PST on Mar 4, 2012

Be thankful for those who do have a partner.

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Valerie R.

7:26AM PST on Mar 4, 2012

Some great tips that are easy to apply. Thanks.

Bethany D.

6:35PM PST on Feb 29, 2012

Good advice, but what about when a very necessary medication is a big factor in loss of desire? Yes I want that connection back, but without my meds a normalish life becomes impossible.

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Camila K.

5:10PM PST on Feb 26, 2012

you are assuming that both partners are willing to try this, and this is usually the problem....he is never on the same page (and its usually he who is the problem regarding this issue, isn't it?).

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Denise L.

2:05PM PST on Feb 26, 2012

For us when the economy crashed things slowed down with my husband's trade and he had to leave home for work. He went across the country but soon moved us closer to him. He now works in the middle of nowhere and stays at the work camps for 11 days then comes home for a break for 3 days.

There is something to be said for having some time apart and missing another to ignite passion. I love getting ready,dressing all up and setting the scene on the day he comes home. We may spend a little less time together now but it seems the time we do spend together is more meaningful.

Carole R.

6:02PM PST on Feb 23, 2012

Thanks.