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13 Sex Secrets of Married Couples

13 Sex Secrets of Married Couples

Ever wonder how your sex life stacks up to that of other couples? Probably…but relentlessly quizzing friends, coworkers, and strangers on the subway can get a little awkward.

Good thing we have iVillage’s recently-released 2013 Married Sex Survey. Keep reading for some of the most intriguing findings from married men and women all over the country:

  • 80% of men and 61% of women say they’re happy with their sex lives.
  • Women think their husbands are less happy than they are—and for men, the opposite was true. Only 55% of women thought their husbands were happy with their sex lives, but 79% of men thought their wives were happy.
  • 68% of men say they married the best sex of their lives, compared to 45% of women who said the same.
  • What’s turning us on? For women, it’s feelings of love, followed by our partner taking initiative and our partner saying nice things.
  • For men, it’s seeing their partner in sexy clothes, followed by feelings of love, and seeing their partner without clothes. Easy enough.
  • Yaaaawwwwn. 54% of women and 68% of men said their sex life was predictable.
  • The most predictable aspect? For men, it was sexual position. For women? Location, location, location.
  • Blame the kids for the lack of spontaneous kitchen sex! 52% of women and 49% of men said they had hotter sex before having kids. Though about a third say there have been no changes post-kids…and 8% of women and 22% of men actually say sex has gotten better since they had kids. Way to go!
  • Ever sexted? You’re not alone—about a third of married people have texted or emailed sexy messages. Men are more likely to do both, as well as being more likely to leave a sexy voicemail or Facebook note. Just remember to send a message, not a wall post, guys!
  • What’s on your sex wish list? 42% of men surveyed want their partner to initiate more and 41% want oral sex more often.
  • Meanwhile, 35% of women are craving more foreplay, and 32% want their husbands to say more loving things.
  • If you could have a freebie—an extra-marital affair with no chance of getting caught—would you take it? 32% of men and 13% of women said they would. As for who their freebie would be with, an old boyfriend tops the list for women, while men say either a hot celeb (good luck) or a friend’s spouse.
  • Looks like the 50 Shades of Grey effect is real! A fifth of men and women surveyed have read the book, and 65% of ‘em say their sex life has changed as a result—with more foreplay, more sex, more sexy lingerie, more toys in the bedroom, and more discussion about fantasies and desires. We’ll be right back, heading to the library…

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3:53PM PST on Dec 8, 2014

LOL good stuff

1:02PM PST on Nov 30, 2014

Psssss..... they are no longer secrets - you have just outed them.

2:19PM PDT on Sep 26, 2014


4:30PM PDT on Sep 13, 2014

This resonates for me. Especially saying NICE things to the wife. Criticism is a terrible turnoff. And more foreplay. I've told my husband for years that partner dancing counts as foreplay for me. Feeling safe, from criticism, shouting, interruption, cursing is an absolute pre-requisite.

7:56PM PDT on Sep 12, 2014


1:20PM PDT on Sep 5, 2014

Thanks for sharing :)

9:26PM PDT on Aug 3, 2014

this is a good article

2:45AM PDT on Jul 31, 2014

Sent to those who can use it. Thanks for posting

3:30AM PDT on May 29, 2014

Never crossed my mind to wonder how my sex life measures up to that of other couples,and certainly couldn't care less. Don't need to know. What, when where,,how, how often??? None of my business, just as my sex life is none of theirs.

1:46AM PDT on May 18, 2014

Teresa seems to think sex between a married couple is "disgusting". Perhaps she prefers extramarital affairs or sex between umarried people. No, she considers that also "disgusting". Remember, Teresa, were it not for sex, you wouldn't be here at all, and neither would any of us, and our species would be gone in a little more than 100 years. Is that really what you want?

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