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15 Habits of Highly Confident People

15 Habits of Highly Confident People

No one is confident all the time but some people seem to exude confidence leaving others wondering “what’s the secret?”  Here are some of my observations about the habits of highly confident people.

1.  They have a strong sense of self. They know what they like and what they don’t like.  They’ve most likely built a strong sense of self by having a wide variety of experiences.

2.  They have a strong sense of personal boundaries. They don’t try to please others merely for the sake of making others happy. But, that doesn’t mean they are contrarian to boost their ego either.

3.  They learn from their past without dwelling on it. The past can play a role in helping us move forward in life, but not if we get stuck in it.

4.  They go after their goals and dreams. They may feel fear but they strive to reach their dreams anyway.

5.  They recognize mistakes are learning opportunities. They don’t beat themselves up for their mistakes, realizing that every mistake is an opportunity to learn likes, dislikes, and ways to be more successful next time.

6.  They try new things. There is an expression that experience is the best teacher.  Trying new things allows us to evolve as people.

7.  They take risks. They make informed choices even if there is risk involved.  They know the difference between a gamble and a risk.  They prepare as much as they can and then dive in for those risks they feel are worth the effort.

8.  They refuse to be victimized. One thing I learned from being a health practitioner is that everyone has had difficulties and challenges.  The highly confident person refuses to let the difficulties make them feel victimized.  Of course, we all feel sorry for ourselves sometimes but it is important not to linger in self-pity.

9.  They celebrate their successes and the successes of others. You won’t find truly confident people who are jealous and diminishing of other people’s successes.  They celebrate them.

10.  They can be alone with their own thoughts without needing to fill every minute with conversation, technologies (cellphones, e-mail, texting, etc.), pastimes, or television.

11. They trust their instincts. Instincts help guide us on our path to make the best choices for us.  Trusting these instincts helps us make better choices.

12.  They accept change. Someone once said that “change is the only constant.”  While highly confident people may not always like the changes occurring they accept them and do their best to ride the wave of change.

13.  They take care of themselves. They know that the expression GIGO (Garbage in, Garbage out) is true of the body.  They treat their body with respect by giving it high quality nourishment in the form of healthy food, fresh air, relaxation, and activity.

14.  They boost others, not demean them. Confidence and ego-tripping aren’t the same things.  Confident people don’t feel the need to put others down to build themselves up.

15.  They dont beat themselves up. Of course, no one is perfect.  Even the most confident of people have weak moments.  They dust themselves off and keep going.

What do you think are the habits of highly confident people?  I’d love to hear from you.

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10:12AM PST on Dec 18, 2013

yeap, great
if you didn't get any confidence from your parents, you will have to mourn about it and accept that it will NEVER be. That's life! But get to 8 and tel you, you're not a victim! And the good news are: you can replace the love of your parents and give yourself all the love and confidence you didn't get and you need, isn't it wonderful?
But sometimes you need help for that, alone, it's more difficult...

8:45PM PST on Dec 10, 2013

to be be confident I believe you really have to like yourself - not love yourself - but really like yourself, the good, and the bad traits, you can hate the way your hair looks, or how wide your hips are, or hate any part of your outter package, but you really need to like yourself to be confident.

7:07PM PST on Dec 10, 2013


11:58AM PST on Dec 10, 2013

confidence is a state of mind! Can be cultivated.

2:47AM PST on Dec 10, 2013

I wish I was more confident than I am.

10:22PM PST on Dec 6, 2013


Seems to me there are 2 schools of thought at work these days ...

One believes that silence is golden, let your light shine on who and what you are, speaks volumes through example AND THE OTHER says screw the team theme -- I want it, I need it, it's mine, whatever it takes, you lose.

Middle ground is vastly shrinking as with all the earth's surface.

10:48AM PST on Dec 6, 2013

Thank you

1:05AM PST on Dec 6, 2013

I'm not as confident as I could be but I'm trying to do better. Thanks.

11:49PM PST on Dec 5, 2013

John S....Your comments just make me giddy! Ok I can't stop I tickled?!?! Or just an idiot?!?!

11:48PM PST on Dec 5, 2013

Shocked at the vote...Leaning Yes was leading. I was a goner on #15, 13 and 4...Already knew I was ....Well, we all know that! xx

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