START A PETITION 25,136,189 members: the world's largest community for good
START A PETITION
x

3 Obvious Signs Your Partner & You Need Sex Counseling

3 Obvious Signs Your Partner & You Need Sex Counseling

Marriage sex counseling can be a bit of a taboo subject. Put it this way: it’s not exactly something you want to bring up while having your in-laws over for dinner or while interviewing for a new job. But, while it may be a bit taboo, it’s also a subject that becomes necessary when certain things happen — or, rather, certain things are not happening. Like, ever.

More from YourTango: 7 Sex Positions Men Love

Marriage sex counseling is a vital step for those whose marriage is sexless (truly sexless, that is, not Dean McDermott’s version of sexless). Even when there are a myriad of excuses — we’ve been married for years, we have four kids, our plates are so full the proverbial mashed potatoes are spilling onto the table — a marriage without sex can take both physical and emotional tolls.

There are ways, of course, to remedy this on your own: if you aren’t having sex, start having it (read: with each other). Even schedule it if you need to. Yet, marriage sex counseling may be more beneficial than self-help (and self-love!) for it allows an objective party to guide you through the process by bringing up things you may not have already thought about. It also teaches you that a marriage without sex can be a sign of deeper problems.

Marriage sex counseling isn’t for everyone: you may simply not need it. But, if you fall into the following three categories, it’s something you should consider taking out for a roll in the hay.

More from YourTango: 4 Things I’ve Learned From Being A Sex Therapist

1. You Are Disconnected From Your Spouse
If you and your spouse are disconnected, marriage sex counseling may not be an option; rather, it may be a requirement. Being disconnected from your spouse and filing for divorce is akin to sitting outside all day and getting a sun burn: it’s the predecessor. There may be a million reasons why you are disconnected, but marriage sex counseling, because it focuses on connecting you in the most literal way, can help reconnect and reignite.

2. You Have Forgotten That Sex is Important
This area is where it can get a bit tricky: one partner may read the “sex is important” line, nod their head in agreement, and shove this article in their significant other’s face with a victorious “told you!” Other partners, on the other hand, may chuckle. But, the truth is that if sex is important to one person, it’s important to the marriage. This is, of course, not to say that a spouse needs to be sexually submissive to his or her partner, allowing them to have their way whenever the mood hits. But, he or she should make an effort to give their significant other affection. And, here’s the best part: both parties should enjoy!

More from YourTango: 12 Myths You Shouldn’t Believe About Therapy, Sex & Infidelity

3. You Are Overly Frustrated
Frustration is often part of marriage just as it is part of most other aspects of life. But there is a difference with being frustrated on occasion — she got lipstick all over my work shirt or he forgot to take the trash out again! — and being frustrated all the time. Intermittent frustration is normal, constant frustration is not. So, if you find yourself overly frustrated or about as anxious as an elephant meeting Mickey Mouse, then marriage sex counseling is worth a try. Through it, you can be taught how sex is a powerful way to alleviate the frustrations that tend to burden so many of us.

By Michael Griswold for YourTango.com.

This article originally appeared on YourTango.com: 3 Obvious Signs You & Your Partner Need Sex Counseling.

Read more: Love, Relationships, Sex, , , ,

have you shared this story yet?

go ahead, give it a little love

YourTango

YourTango is a digital media company dedicated to love and relationships. No matter what lovestage our users are in—single, taken, engaged, married, starting over, or complicated—we help them live their best love lives.

57 comments

+ add your own
5:32AM PDT on Jul 21, 2014

"...to his or her partner..."
People should put these gender words in alphabetical order, rather than using the sexist male word first convention by default.

1:21PM PDT on Jun 27, 2014

ha

11:37PM PDT on Jun 26, 2014

Valuable signs...Thank you.

12:36PM PDT on Jun 20, 2014

I talk to a social worker every two weeks to get issues off my chest and it helps he a great deal. If I were in a relationship, I wouldn't hesitate to use a certified councilor

11:56AM PDT on Jun 20, 2014

Thankyou Mr. Michael Griswold for this article. No: 1 & 3 is reality for a lot of people out there yet bear it silently due to cultural/ social reasons. Thankyou!

8:15AM PDT on Jun 19, 2014

Thanks for sharing.

4:25PM PDT on Jun 18, 2014

Thank you :)

6:10PM PDT on Jun 17, 2014

I'm not a big fan of counselling for anything.

In most cases, the only one really helped.

Is the councillor.

2:53AM PDT on Jun 17, 2014

noted

12:42AM PDT on Jun 17, 2014

ty for sharing

add your comment



Disclaimer: The views expressed above are solely those of the author and may not reflect those of
Care2, Inc., its employees or advertisers.

people are talking

I think I can manage 1 cup of water first thing in the a.m. but not 2 or 3. Will try to get more wa…

Surely, it's easier and more time efficient to feed all chickens with antibiotics, than to take the …

Condoms and other protection

Some of the research that Carter set off bore fruit in the data about the hole in the ozone and hard…

Story idea? Want to blog? Contact the editors!



Select names from your address book   |   Help
   

We hate spam. We do not sell or share the email addresses you provide.