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3 Ways to Heal Relationships
Adapted from The Path to Love, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1997).
If sharing is to take place, you must build a basis that includes equality, sensitivity, and communication.
Equality
In spirit everyone is equal. This isn’t just an abstract concept; it is the one perception that can overcome ego. If I feel superior to you, my superiority is rooted in self-image.
Equality isn’t based upon external factors or images. We all have an equal right to be appreciated, respected and understood. Some men find it hard to extend this concept to woman’s emotions. They were not taught to value their own feelings, which get expressed only as a last resort.
But to accept another person means accepting her emotions—there is nothing more basic or intrinsic. If this equality doesn’t exist, how can spirit really grow?
Spirit isn’t an emotion, but it provides an opening to our inner selves. You have to feel that your partner wants to understand you and your feelings before you can share experiences you barely understand yourself.
Sensitivity
Being able to sense what is going on inside another person is a skill that has to be developed like any other. Sensitivity requires setting aside your notions of what the other person is feeling, what you think she should feel, and what you hope she isn’t feeling. Wherever the ego intrudes, sensitivity cannot be present.
To be sensitive you will have to abandon being right all the time, being in control, having needs that must dominate over the needs of others, and so forth.
Communication.
Communion is the root word in communication, reminding us that to communicate with another person isn’t to pass on information. It is to draw another into union with yourself.
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add your comment »Tim,
What are you thoughts on time travel? And do you believe it is probable?
I have been told that the government has been working on this since world war 2.
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Thank you for reading my thoughts.
Tonight in Dayton Ohio it is very cold and my heater is not working. The wife and kids left for warmer places, but I stayed behind and talk about this topic, to anybody who might be interested.
We have come a long way, and minor set backs like these only remind you how far we have gone.
Thanks too inventors like Thomas A. Edison. Who also believed we could communicate with the dead.
He also said he would never build anything, unless he thought he could make money from it. At the time he believed this was possible, the President at the time, only made fun of the idea, so I don't know if that played a factor in it or not.
I believe we our at a point in our history, where we need to explore this option more than we have ever done before, and that is due to one reason and one reason only, because of Homeland security.
Let's say that the Government finally places all types of equipment along our borders, or around any other type of situation that could bring weapons of mass destruction into this country, they still could not protect against this type of possibility.
The day after the huricane hit New Orleans, the film from the news looked good for the most part, but the next day things changed. this topic is no different, we can look at it today, and think our options are still the same as they have always been, but it is the day after you die, that we don't have a clue, but our comfort zone today, can not see it.
My goal is to try and help you see it.
Six hundred million people on average, will have an out of body experience at some point intheir life, and they don't even know it. One of them might be you.
Some feels that every one of these six hundred million people should be able to give evidence that they were actually out of their body. Now saying you were in a car wreck, and the next thing you know, you are in the back seat of the car, and your body is in the front, is not concidered evidence, they want you to already plan for this to happen, and then be able to read something in an evelope or something, that was placed in a special spot, just for this type of situation.
I would be willing to bet, that ten years ago, most people even knew what an out of body experience is, so to even consider that everybody has a back up plan just for that possibility would be hard.
Do you have a plan in case you ever just have an out of body experience, good enough have a plan as I am talking about, got for bid if you ever find your self in that situation.
I have had my experience before, and I never think about today, what might kids should do in case it ever happens to them.
Even though there are probally more people who are going to have this experience, than there will be people actually being able to use their CPR training, you just neve hear about this. Maybe because after some one has one, they don't talk about it, because they are afraid of what people might think of them. Now that to me sounds crazy, when there is six hundred million of them doing it.
I can say with complete confidence, that they are not alone.
Sure we have so many other important things to talk about, so why worry about this anyway?
I have complete confidence that at some point in your life you will think about this topicagain, and wonder if you might of been better off to explore it more, just like they told me I should do better in school, because someday I am gong to feel bad, because I did not do better in school.
My idea is new, but it falls in line with everything that is going on around us at this time.
We are now able to communicate with thought in a human, my idea is to follow through and see if we can do it with future potential out of body afterlife patients. these are the same patients that are training with the machine that is able to communicate with thought.
Science saids that energy can not be destroyed, and that they do not know what is inside energy, but they have no problem communicating with real patients, since they can see them, touch them and interact with them, but to go to where I want to go, they want proof that it is possible, with out the help of the same patients they are using.
I believe if I was given permission to hang out with the patients of BrainGate in Boston, Masichuses, thet they would like this chance, but this opportunity has not ever been given.
They say that 80% of Americans believe there is some type of afterlife, but you have to second guess that, when thet are given a free opportunity to find out, and they can't decide if we shoud do it, or if it is just a pintless waste of time.
Our Government is going to spend around 76 billion dol;lars on different types of research this year alone, but not on this possibility, because people don't understand it.
Some feel they go off to some other realm or something, but they do not know.
Some people feel that when you die, that you become brain dead, but some research has found, that people who have out of body experiences at curtain ages, even though they are not getting oxigen to their brain for long periods of time, have tested with a geniuses I.q. How can that be?
Example:
In the sixth grade, I made 18 f's on my report card. Besides the fact that my grammor and spelling sucks, I have beat master players at chess, I beat the Master Chess Game, that saids only one percent of all humans will ever beat it, I have beaten a state champion in 8-ball many times, but the only math I have ever taken is general math.
I was the Vice President of an financial company with an asistant and five supervisors working under me at one point, and I gave all of that up to focus on this topic.
Everything in life takes it's allotted amount of time, and this topic is no different.
Please take the time and find somebody in science that is an expert in this field, you will not find one, becauce of ego and nothing else. This topic to them is the roter rooter of their life. They do not want to have to take on the potential ridicule of even attempting to focus on this possibility. They will do it from time to time and look at it, as though they can show some way where the mind might just be playing tricks on us, but that is no way to attack this possibility, you have to look at it from different pardigms as well.
To truly understand this topic, you have to look back in history and see how it has played out, becuse the past, is what most of us are getting our information from. I would find it hard to believe that anybody is getting any new informatin about his topic, unless you are buying into things you are seeing in movies or shows, lord knows they have all types of them out there.
I believe my idea is a reality idea, becauce it can be tried with real people.
They say in life that everything comes down to fight or flight.
We know that our energy is always taking us out of pain and into pleasure, and everytime somebody is put in a near death situation, the mind energy decides to flight out of the body.
You ever get the feeling that we know everything as a society, well I don't think we really do, because if I am right, their still will be no laws known to man or science that will be broken if my idea works. Now on the other hand, it will fill in a lot of missing pieces.
They say that you should keep it short because people can only focus on one thing at a time, but I am cold and I sorry if that is the case, and thank you once again for reading my thoughts,
Tim
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your insight is invaluable.
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Thank you Deepak,there are so many concepts that attribute to "Equality" is it really the ego? When it comes to relationships and communication, we are different species altogether,when it comes down to re-lating.Is it more that women are from the heart chakra,whilst men only relate to what they think, and woment feel????
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Dear Deepak Chopra,
I have an idea on how we can communicate with future out of body afterlife people in a way that can be measured. Please find the time to talk to me about it, if you don't mind.
Thank you for reading my thoughts,
Tim
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Tramazing wisdom...I left my husband after 28 years because of devaluing me as an equal partner..You encourage me to keep growing by love with boundries so as to keep a solid focus in a healthy love walk..God Bless you More....Carla
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thankyou. i have always beleived that a partners feelings need to be valued and respected in a relationship...sometimes this has been less than present though. Reading this helps me to solidify this
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WOW! Very well said :o) Thank you - I will need to review this one again - and find my challenges/focus with the sensitivity and communication. I tend to think that everyone has the same schedule and life as I do ---- not good :o(
I am in embryo and awakening to many new things...thank you for these great bits of wisdom.
Robin
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