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3 Wise Tips for Peaceful Relationships

3 Wise Tips for Peaceful Relationships

I recently read a beautiful thought: “Relationships are like tender birds. Hold them too tight and they die. Hold them too loose and they fly. But hold them with care and they stay with you forever.”

In real life, it can be hard to hold relationships just right. Here is some advice from my own experience, which has helped me strengthen my bonds. Hope it helps you, too.

Don’t talk too much: I know that the standard relationship-repair advice is to “talk it all out.”  But I am referring to another kind of “talk.” The kind that qualifies as idle chat or general conversation. In my experience, the more we talk, the more likely we are to say something out of turn or off color. Keep it simple and clean, especially with people you know who are sensitive. I have been able to pull up a going-downhill relationship by doing just this.

Don’t react at once:  Conflicts worsen when neither party is willing to back off. There are times when you can see that the person opposite you is totally wrong, unfair and unkind. But in the heat of the moment, nothing you say will make sense to him or her. Wait for the steam to evaporate. Then, after reflecting on the possible reasons for the person’s behavior and thinking of a positive solution, take it up gently, and stay calm. Daily meditation makes this easy to do.

Don’t jump to conclusions: If your partner wants to spend an evening alone, don’t assume it is because the love is fading. If a friend does not call you as often as you would like, don’t conclude that she has become indifferent or arrogant. We sometimes do things simply because we want to or have to, not because we intend to hurt someone. If most of us understood that, a majority of conflicts could be avoided.

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Shubhra Krishan

Writer, editor and journalist Shubhra Krishan is the author of Essential Ayurveda: What it is and what it can do for you (New World Library, 2003), Radiant Body, Restful Mind: A Woman's book of comfort (New World Library, 2004), and The 9 to 5 Yogi: How to feel like a sage while working like a dog (Hay House India, 2011).

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7:24AM PDT on Jun 17, 2013

Silence is so Amazing.

7:46PM PDT on Jun 14, 2013

think first always

3:51AM PDT on Jun 14, 2013

It's always quality instead of quantity that counts

9:34AM PDT on Jun 12, 2013

think before you speak

5:31AM PDT on Jun 12, 2013

I follow them (i'm naturally introvert and calm) and people still say I have problems with socializing. I just don't feel ok with other people... and I don't want to stay with them... Not sure if I have schizoid personality disorder or I am just normal but other people aren't ok .^.

8:55PM PDT on Jun 11, 2013

Great advice, thank you !

6:03PM PDT on Jun 11, 2013

Thanks.

11:51PM PDT on Jun 10, 2013

Yes, stop thinking and acting like crazy

2:11AM PDT on Jun 10, 2013

Great tips, thanks

11:25PM PDT on Jun 7, 2013

Simple but sound. Thank you.

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