3. Listen to your friend and validate their feelings.
When your friend is sharing a problem with you, you most likely want them to feel better. This could lead to you trying to ďfixĒ the problem for them. However, usually what they want and need is for you to listen and validate that you understand what they are going through. With our busy lives, itís sometimes hard to truly listen to someone. To be an active listener requires you to focus all of your attention and energy on that one task; however, it is well worth it. A point to remember during this process is to leave judgment out of the equation. True friends donít judge; they let their friends know that they support them. Your friend might just need to share the problem in order to come to her own conclusions.
4. Be there for your friend in the good times and the bad.
Letís be honest here. Sometimes, itís easier for us to be there for our friends when theyíre down than it is when everything is going stellar for them. You know why? Itís a little thing called jealousy. It grabs ahold of you and itís hard to shake. At times itís downright embarrassing to us, but at some point, it happens to everyone. Hereís a tip: acknowledge your feelings and work through them. It is normal to feel envy when your life is having a downturn and your friendís life is soaring. Accept your feelings and move on. Eventually, the tables will be turned and you will appreciate the support.
I believe we all can agree that our friendships are very, very important to us. I encourage you to take an honest look at YOU and your friendships and make the changes needed to be an exceptional friend.
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