By Chť Blackwood for Cupidís Pulse, via DivineCaroline
If romantic comedies and romance novels are to be believed, all single women are on a crazed mission to marry the man of their dreams. They arenít on a journey to know themselves, find a job they love, test out their creativity or enjoy life: those are all secondary goals on the road to getting a husband. Of course, Hollywood also says women wear makeup to bed, so itís clear that cinema doesnít always portray things the way they really are. In the real world, humans are complex, and true inner happiness takes more than sporting a ring on your finger. Before getting swept up in the mighty hype of marriage, take stock of these components of your life and be sure youíre nourishing them as well:
1. Your goals: Planning ahead, working hard and motivating yourself to accomplish your personal goals are some of lifeís most rewarding challenges. The more you accomplish, the more your life will open up. Go back to school, save enough money to buy a brand new car, write a book, whatever. Once you start meeting your goals, youíll realize just how capable you are. Plus, youíll be happier. Without achieving personal fulfillment on your own, youíll never be completely fulfilled while in a relationship.
2. Your fears: Itís scary to take risks, because when you do, you can often lose something. Of course, youíll also find new benefits when you take chances. Moving to a new city could make you lonely, but it also could open your world to romantic restaurants, new friends and amazing experiences. Even if you fail, the rewards of learning from your mistakes are too large to miss out on. Until you feel comfortable facing your fears, you wonít be able to navigate the tough waters of love. Nothing is as risky as leaving your heart in the hands of someone else, and itís too difficult to even attempt until youíve learned how to lose as well as win.
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