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4 Reasons Why There’s More to Life Than Marriage

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4 Reasons Why There’s More to Life Than Marriage

By Ché Blackwood for Cupid’s Pulse, via DivineCaroline

If romantic comedies and romance novels are to be believed, all single women are on a crazed mission to marry the man of their dreams. They aren’t on a journey to know themselves, find a job they love, test out their creativity or enjoy life: those are all secondary goals on the road to getting a husband. Of course, Hollywood also says women wear makeup to bed, so it’s clear that cinema doesn’t always portray things the way they really are. In the real world, humans are complex, and true inner happiness takes more than sporting a ring on your finger. Before getting swept up in the mighty hype of marriage, take stock of these components of your life and be sure you’re nourishing them as well:

1. Your goals: Planning ahead, working hard and motivating yourself to accomplish your personal goals are some of life’s most rewarding challenges. The more you accomplish, the more your life will open up. Go back to school, save enough money to buy a brand new car, write a book, whatever. Once you start meeting your goals, you’ll realize just how capable you are. Plus, you’ll be happier. Without achieving personal fulfillment on your own, you’ll never be completely fulfilled while in a relationship.

2. Your fears: It’s scary to take risks, because when you do, you can often lose something. Of course, you’ll also find new benefits when you take chances. Moving to a new city could make you lonely, but it also could open your world to romantic restaurants, new friends and amazing experiences. Even if you fail, the rewards of learning from your mistakes are too large to miss out on. Until you feel comfortable facing your fears, you won’t be able to navigate the tough waters of love. Nothing is as risky as leaving your heart in the hands of someone else, and it’s too difficult to even attempt until you’ve learned how to lose as well as win.

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12:39PM PDT on Oct 19, 2014

Good tips, but the article seems to imply this is only for singles. These are important goals for those who are not also. Thanks.

4:54AM PDT on Oct 16, 2014

Thank you :)

8:20AM PST on Feb 15, 2013

So agree, thanks! Sharing

7:49PM PDT on Oct 15, 2012

thanks... but love can make the journey more enjoyable and fulfilling :) just let things happen

12:19AM PDT on Oct 9, 2012

Being single is like being rich :)))

9:09PM PDT on Sep 23, 2012

A good article.

4:17AM PDT on Sep 17, 2012

Thanks for the wonderful information. Regards :-)

4:14AM PDT on Sep 17, 2012

Thanks for the wonderful information. Regards :-)

11:43AM PDT on Sep 16, 2012

If I find The One, thats great. If I dont, whatever, I have lots of things to do.

9:53AM PDT on Sep 15, 2012

some interesting comments.. i feel both sides.

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