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4 Ways to Make Lust Last

  • June 27, 2011
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2. Become a sculptor

A man who’s in a long-term relationship sometimes says of his partner, “She brings out the best in me.” That’s actually true. In the best relationships, partners support and encourage each other in ways that help both of them become the people they want to be.

Pay attention to the 20 things she notices about you.

Summarizing results from recent studies, Eli Finkel, Ph.D., a psychologist at Northwestern University, concluded that the more each partner promotes the other’s ideal self, the better a relationship functions and the happier both partners are. Researchers call this the “Michelangelo phenomenon,” because the famed Renaissance sculptor described his artistry as releasing the sculpture residing in a block of stone.

Your move: Map out long-term goals for yourselves. Doing this allows you to help each other without adding unnecessary pressure. (It’s remarkably easy to go from gently prodding your unemployed partner to apply for jobs to berating her because she’s not taking the exact steps you think she should be taking.) The best way to make sure you’re supporting her without coming across as a stage manager, Finkel says, is to spend time once or twice a year going over those goals. That way you can gain a more specific idea of the kind of encouragement your partner actually wants. Try asking straight out, “What’s the best way I can help you?” For instance, if she already has a job but secretly harbors dreams of switching her career to nursing, she might appreciate a gentle reminder about registering for night classes or a celebratory dinner when she does well on a big test.

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5:05AM PDT on Apr 22, 2013

Thank you for sharing.

7:58AM PDT on Apr 6, 2013

There is definitely too much porn on Care2.

10:30AM PDT on Mar 29, 2013

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That's kinda like saying that someone should take drugs to fall in love. I really don't agree with the idea.

10:27AM PDT on Mar 29, 2013

Lust isn't going to last unless there is real love. It never works for people who get together with someone just because they're cute.

5:08AM PDT on Jul 10, 2011

My comment didn't print. And yes I did go out and come back in, still didn't print so I'll repeat.

King Solomon was reputed to be the wisest man who ever lived. I disagree but...

Do what he did. Get yourself a thousand wives and let them fight over you. That should prolong the lust beyond the tantra limits.

5:02AM PDT on Jul 10, 2011

King Solomon is reputed to have been the wisest man who ever lived. Shhh-I don't agree.

Do what he did. Get yourself 100 wives and let them fight over you. That should be a real turn on that will last beyond your kingdom's demands.

12:43AM PDT on Jul 10, 2011

While there IS a difference between love and lust, I do think that it IS important that the lust last a while... being IN love waxes and wanes. This doesn't mean we stop loving each other, but, it's hard not to remain IN love, when the lust is still there keeping everything fresh...

Eventually, the hormones and physique will diminish, and it will be the memories to reminisce that will keep the romance going...

1:12AM PDT on Jul 1, 2011

Good.,Good article for newly married couples.

4:31PM PDT on Jun 29, 2011

common sense

1:08PM PDT on Jun 29, 2011

good stuff. Loving, as much and as unconditionally as possible, communicating well, trusting, and just doing it often is a good formula for many things you want success in.

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