If you feel like you’re running out of places to meet men (read: you’ve had enough of friends trying to set you up with “this amazing guy”), fear not dignity dater! We’ve compiled a list of the five best places to meet the “good men” for your consideration.
However, before we dig into the “where” and “how” of meeting good men, know that it’s time to take this dating challenge to a deeper level. You see, among the biggest obstacles in dating are having beliefs that feel like absolute truths. And, of course, these beliefs are based on your experiences.
That said, it’s important to know that these beliefs are not the 100% absolute truth in 100% of the cases. And, if you choose to hold on to these beliefs as your absolute truth, then it will eventually limit your lifestyle, your date-ability, and ultimately your results.
- There are no good men in my town. (Women believe this is true, whether they’re from Fargo, Miami, or Sioux City.)
- It’s hard to meet men.
- The good men are taken.
If you’re willing to let go of those beliefs and become open to the “ease” of meeting good men, then get ready to meet them–because they are actually everywhere!
1. Sports Bars
Football season is in full swing, and a Sunday or Monday night at a regular sports bar will be teeming with single guys out with friends supporting their teams of choice. But this doesn’t mean they won’t have time to focus on a lovely single lady such as yourself. So grab your winggirls, wear a jersey if you have a team to support, and enjoy a girls’ night out… with the boys.
2. Coffee shops
Whether he’s a regular or just in the neighborhood for a cup of joe, coffee shops are a great place to meet men. Typically a coffee shop is an intimate space, and striking up a conversation isn’t too difficult. Also, if it’s a regular destination spot on a Saturday for both him and you, it will be even easier to start up a chat.
The “we have to stop meeting like this” flirtatious comment can be the perfect conversation starter; and since it takes a human seeing another person five times to feel good about approaching, consistency is key! Find a corner spot at your favorite coffee shop on Saturday mornings and make it part of your routine. The possibilities are endless!
3. Gym: Weight Room
A large percentage of gym patrons are and probably always will be male. While you’re sprinting on the treadmill, we recommend you do just that: sweat profusely and perhaps be slightly out of breath.
The place to meet a guy at the gym, however, is in the weight room. Take note: you do not need to be a fitness freak to walk into the weight room! Feel comfortable to pick up the five-pound dumbbells, smile, and ask for help with your form. (Remember: men love to give advice and offer help, so the gym is the perfect opportunity for him to show up and be the hero!) Make a bit of eye contact; if he returns the glance, ask for help!
4. Apple Store
Time and again, the Apple store seems to be the place to be to meet and greet. Guys tend to be interested in tech gadgets, and the Apple Store can be a favorite stop for the guy who wants to make a purchase, browse, or get help fixing his hard drive.
Don’t have a Mac? That’s okay. You can get anything there, from advice to a bag for your laptop to a guy! Weekends tend to have the most people in the store, so bring a friend or go solo; maybe you need a “genius” to look at your hard drive. When all is done, strike up a conversation about the pros and cons of the Macbook Air with the guy in line next to you and see where it goes from there. They’ve even started documenting the number of committed relationships and marriages that have started in an Apple store, so make yourself one of the statistics!
5. Online Dating
Whether you’ve embraced it yet or not, online dating is the best bet to get your dating mojo flowing. To begin, the guys you’re going to meet are going to be single AND available.
Next, it’s a great opportunity to practice dating basics such as flirting, setting boundaries, being in your feminine energy, and getting your needs met. One out of every four marriages today starts online, and there are a variety of sites you can try to see what’s right for you! Right now our Dating with Dignity clients are finding love on match.com, okcupid.com, bigbeautifulmeet.com and eharmony.com too. Remember, there is a site for you. So don’t be afraid to go off the “beaten path” and discover one that meets your needs. It doesn’t have to “popular” to work!
By Marni Battista, DivineCaroline