5 Kinds Of Trust Married Couples Need

By Drs. Evelyn and Paul Moschetta for YourTango

A happy marriage rests on a foundation of unquestioned trust. If you want your marriage to be all it can be, you must know how to create this kind of trust. Most couples think of trust exclusively in terms of being sexually faithful, which is essential, but there’s more to it.

Research into strong healthy marriages revealed five specific kinds of trust husbands and wives give one another. So, we suggest you go over the following list and check which kinds of trust you bring (or do not bring) into your marriage. Ask your spouse to do the same and share your results. This is an excellent way to clarify where your trust is solid and where it needs work.

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1. Trust that you will be sexually faithful. Without sexual fidelity marriage becomes unworkable. Partners can recover from an affair but need professional help to do it. Keep your commitment to be sexually faithful. If you’re unhappy in your marriage, get counseling and not a part-time lover.

2. Trust that you will not harm, reject or control one another. Trust thrives in an atmosphere of safety and security. Hurting one another, either physically or verbally, and then rejecting one another, creates fear which undermines trust. With control comes mistrust so make sure your love is not filled with a lot of possessive clinging which pushes your partner away.

3. Trust that you love one another without ulterior motives. You and your spouse need to feel sure you are loved for yourself and not some ulterior motive. That includes your looks, your money, your family. Your partner needs someone to feel superior to or be a buffer against being alone and lonely.

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4. Trust that you will not abandon one another in the face of anger, conflict and disagreements. Anger, conflict and disagreements are inevitable. Make it safe for the careful expression of anger and for disagreements to happen without raising a fear of abandonment. You do this by never using the threat of divorce against your partner.

5. Trust that you will keep each other and your marriage a top priority. Partners trust that they mean it when they promise to love, honor and cherish one another. Don’t take each other for granted, neglect your relationship or consistently give too much time and energy to other things and people you break that trust. Remember every day what is really important in your life. Keep your priorities clear. Make your partner and your marriage a top priority.

This article originally appeared on YourTango.com: 5 Kinds Of Trust Every Marriage Needs.

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Alexa R.
Alexa R1 years ago

Whoa .. Looking back at this 'trust' issue, I seem to have gotten much better at it thanks to my adorable partner in part - he's just so easy to trust .. Maybe trust between certain couples is more natural and deep-rooted than between others .. However, I realise I still have to continue working at these, specially point 5 ..

Thanks for a very useful article and timely reminder ..

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Carole R.
Carole R1 years ago

Good suggestions.

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Fi T.
Past Member 1 years ago

Communicated trust

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Reva Lynnette Donaldson

Great Article

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Oh Lay Hoon
Oh Hui Xin4 years ago

All of the above facts are super true!!!
for many who got together for some sort of motives, it won't last long at all

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Aud Nordby
Aud n4 years ago

thanks

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Mary B.
Mary B4 years ago

I think trust is the number 1 issue in everything, including planting crops. You have to trust that your effort will bare fruit. When trust is betrayed, with drawing love fallows. You may be able to rebuild a certain amount of love just because it feels good to love, but once you've been deceived, something happens to respect from the deceiver.It's as if once they know you will forgive them, they have a tiny opening to try it again.And a part of your own energy also gets tied up in watching for any further evidence of betrayals. Ever try being friends with someone who has had their trust violated repeatedly by others? Or with someone who is used to 'getting away' with something they justify to themselves but that you personally won't tolorate? It's amazeing any of us can get along in a culture that values money and posesions over relationships.

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Elena T.
Elena Poensgen4 years ago

Thank you :)

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