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5 Myths About Herpes, Busted!

5 Myths About Herpes, Busted!

Herpes is common. Really common. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), about one in six adults has genital herpes, a sexually transmitted infection (STI) caused by herpes simplex virus. (To learn more about the two types of herpes, HSV-1 and HSV-2, check out the CDC’s herpes fact sheet). While it may be super-common, there are still a lot of myths out there about it—here are five I hear a lot.

Myth 1: If I don’t have any sores, I don’t have herpes.

Herpes can lay dormant (sort of like it’s in hibernation) for years without causing any noticeable symptoms. Because of this, many people don’t know they have it and may have trouble figuring out how or when they got it. When symptoms do occur, they often appear as small blisters on or around the genitals. The blisters may look like pimples with clear fluid in them, and they may be painful or have a burning sensation. The best way to find out if you have herpes is to see a health care provider if you have pain, blisters or a sore.

Myth 2: We didn’t have sex, so there’s no way I have genital herpes.

Herpes is spread by skin-to-skin contact with someone who carries the virus. That means you can get herpes by touching, kissing and oral, vaginal, or anal sex. People who carry herpes don’t always know they have the virus, and they may not have any visible sores on their skin.

That said, your risk of getting the virus is higher if you’ve had contact with a partner who does have a visible sore. Using condoms can majorly decrease the risk of spreading the virus, but doesn’t eliminate it completely. Unfortunately, no other type of birth control reduces the risk of this STI.

Myth 3: There’s a cure for herpes…right?

First, the bad news: Once you have herpes, it will be with you for the rest of your life. The virus can lay dormant for long stretches of time, then cause “outbreaks” at times of stress or illness.

Now, the good news: There are medications you can take to make an outbreak go away faster. If you only get outbreaks once every few years, you can take the medications just when you have an outbreak. If you get outbreaks more often, you might benefit from taking a medication daily to prevent them. A discussion with your healthcare provider will help you decide which strategy is best for you.

Myth 4: I can’t have a baby if I have herpes.

This is something many women worry about when they find out they have herpes. Thankfully, it’s not true. Many women living with herpes give birth to healthy babies. However, if you have herpes it is important for you to let your healthcare provider know so he or she can monitor you for symptoms. If at the time of your labor you have any sores on your cervix, vagina, or the skin around your vagina, or if you’re experiencing symptoms like tingling or burning, your provider will recommend a caesarean section to prevent transmission of the virus to your baby. If you don’t have any symptoms, you can safely have a vaginal delivery.

Myth 5: Herpes is something to be ashamed of.

This is the most important myth to bust: While living with herpes can (literally) be a pain, it’s incredibly common and nothing to be ashamed of. For more information on this virus, check out the CDC’s Fact Sheet about it. For a more personal take on living with an STI—along with resources and support—check out The STD Project, a site founded and run by a woman who’s living with herpes.


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Grace Shih, MD, MAS, is an Assistant Clinical Professor in the Department of Family and Community Medicine at the University of California, San Francisco. She has a family medicine practice at the San Francisco General Hospital’s Family Health Center. When she’s not seeing patients, you can find her cooking, hiking, or salsa dancing.

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9:36PM PDT on Sep 13, 2014

Cullen Laboratory at Duke University has found a way to cure even in their dormant states; HVS-1 (cold sores which affects 60% USA population),HSV-2 (genital warts) and VZV (chicken pox/shingles) but they need more funding to help go to clinical trials. Please help spread awareness by sharing or donating. If the website is down its likely because of high amounts of volume or upgrading of the website, you can try again later or the next day. Incase you are scared this link is not official or some scam you can simply google it or google cullen lab at duke. All information at:

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9:56AM PDT on May 1, 2013

I was diagnosed during my first pregnancy, and it was earth shattering to me. I had my first outbreak then, and one since (one month ago) with this pregnancy. It took getting used to, but I am fine

9:24PM PST on Jan 26, 2013

People often make jokes about herpes. I wonder if they realize they are making fun of a quarter of their audience.

7:09PM PST on Jan 24, 2013

So glad you made this article! There is so much misinformation out there, and it is always refreshing to see an article that is fact-based.

6:27PM PST on Jan 20, 2013

thanks for the info

7:14AM PST on Jan 19, 2013

Thanks for sharing. There is more information available and it takes some patience to find reliant articles.

Interesting that "haters" arise, even when sharing interesting information. Maybe the foremost "incurable disease' IS THE HATRED WITHIN OURSELVES.

We are a species that can protect ourselves from almost everything~~~except OURSELVES.

10:05PM PST on Jan 18, 2013

...very interesting :)

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I agree with Kamia


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