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5 Questions That Will Change Your Life

The Power of Inquiry

Here are more ways you can use self-questioning to break through limiting thoughts and behaviors:

1. See the patterns: Often the situations we find most emotionally charged and vexing are those rooted in the patterns of our past. In moments of discomfort, psychologist and author Gay Hendricks suggests paying attention to our bodies, and simply asking, “How is this feeling familiar?” “How is this like things that have happened before?” Recognizing that your current reaction has more to do with the past than the present can be liberating.

2. Ask early and often. Certain questions are more effective at certain times of day, says coach and author Debbie Ford. In the morning, Ford asks herself, “What am I going to do today to have an incredible day?” Then at each new fork in the road, she can ask, “Will this propel me into the future of having an incredible day or will it keep me stuck in a pattern of my past?”

3. Face the Facts. Hendricks has an acronym for good questions in tough situations. Just remember “FACT”: (F) What am I not facing? (A) What am I refusing to accept? (C) If I could choose any outcome, what would it be? and (T) What action do I need to take? Those four questions cover a wide range of “stuck” situations.

Andi McDaniel is a freelance writer in San Francisco.

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2:32AM PDT on May 19, 2013

Thank you :)

12:18PM PDT on May 17, 2013

The questions all derive from thinking... nothing on sensing... therefore there's an imbalance from the outset...

4:44AM PDT on Apr 4, 2013

very interesting, thanks.
I liked the first question. Often we believe things that are just not true if we really think about them.

10:17PM PDT on Mar 25, 2013


3:16AM PDT on Apr 7, 2012

The first three questions remind me of the Rotary International ethical standard...

12:32PM PDT on Apr 6, 2012

Thank you for sharing.

7:00PM PDT on Apr 4, 2012

Thanks for the great article

10:38AM PDT on Jul 12, 2011

good article..precise & very informative. every line was worth reading twice.

1:23AM PDT on Mar 24, 2011

I like this.. very powerful comments Carole K

8:38AM PDT on Oct 5, 2010

It takes a lot of mindful awareness to stop and ask yourself some of these questions instead of reacting by habit. At times it works for me and others not so much. But I'm still trying to let this be a guideline. Life is easier when it's applied.

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