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5 Relationship Lessons from 2011 Celebrity Breakups

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5 Relationship Lessons from 2011 Celebrity Breakups

Arnold and Maria: A Nanny is for the Kids, Not to Have A Kid With

You may have heard the joke New Year’s resolution going around for Arnold that states, “See the movie The Help, instead of helping myself to the help.” If Arnold was thinking with his brain instead of his other organ, he probably would not have gone that extra step to mess around with his nanny (a big no-no for all those that have domestic employees). Whether you are famous, infamous, or just the guy or girl next door, when we are not thinking with our heads and instead are victims of our impulses, life does not go well. Cheating on your spouse outside the home is devastating enough, but cheating inside the home is one domestic disaster impossible to clean up no matter what help you have.

Demi and Ashton: Twit or Tweet

When you find out how your soon-to-be ex-spouse feels about you through a social media post, you get a sense of where the intimacy might have gone astray. When there is a vast age difference in partners, there is a chance that the more mature one is going to love his or her home life while the younger, more active partner will enjoy being out and about, which can lead to meeting new people and sleeping around. Obviously, Ashton must get a lot of attention from gorgeous women who want to be groupies to Hollywood stars. But anyone in a relationship can face the same temptation. To keep that particular wolf from the door, it would be wise to not frequent hot spots without your partner and instead be alone with just him or her. Temptation is on high alert in Hollywood, and with all great-looking rich and famous people, it sometimes powers into overdrive. Creating and maintaining a strong, private attachment and involvement is necessary if there is to be fidelity. The more we are caught up in the hype, the need to be seen, and the need for approval, the more susceptible we are to seduction. The core of sex addiction is a sexualized need for self-esteem. Translation for Ashton: The need to feel wanted all the time.

Kim Kardashian and Kris Who?: A 72-Day Marriage Isn’t A Marriage

The old saying “Marry in haste and repent in leisure” certainly applies here. When we don’t take the time to do our due diligence and learn who our prospective partner is, a quickie divorce can’t be far away. Maybe you and your honey look great together, are invited to all the best parties, but what’s it like when the glamour fades and you wake up to reality? The everyday life of marriage is not so exciting but that is where the real connection comes, if time is on your side. Take the lesson from these two kids who were churned through the glamour machine, that it takes time together getting to know each other alone before you make those life changing decisions. The most important decision you will ever make is who you choose to partner up with.

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12:35PM PDT on May 26, 2012


7:47PM PST on Jan 12, 2012

Celebs can afford nannies, cooks, and other help to raise whatever children they happen to produce from various couplings. Doesn't work that way for the rest of us. Somehow that message isn't getting across.

6:46AM PST on Jan 12, 2012


1:31PM PST on Jan 11, 2012

Interesting...i totally agree with the kin & kris statement..its absolutely appalling that they would take marriage so lightly

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7:01AM PST on Jan 11, 2012


2:24PM PST on Jan 10, 2012

Nancy R - it is a fact of celebrities' lives that they will be talked about. It is part of the package deal that they get, along with fame and ridiculous fortune. I think the article is informative and fair - and if others can learn from their mistakes then the public spectacle that is life for many celebrities is worth something after all.

1:58PM PST on Jan 10, 2012

Leave the celebrities alone! How would you like it if you would be part of a blog like that? How would you like it to have your personal life shown to everyone and talked about? How would you like it to be laughed at and insulted? How would you like it to be harrassed? How would you like it if your children would also be treated this way?

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