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5 Secrets Happy Women Know
by Sara Avant Stover
We women have it all wrong. Happiness doesn’t live in a new hairstyle, handbag, or husband. True contentment waits in the most unlikely of places—right inside of you. That’s right: You alone must become the steward of your own happiness. Your deepest bliss is neither a miracle nor a far off milestone, but rather participation in every moment of every day. At first that doesn’t seem sexy, true, or possible, but how many handbags, hairstyles, and husbands do we have to go through to realize that nothing outside of ourselves can bring happiness? Here are five tried-and-true (and surprisingly simple) ways to start treating your own happiness as your most sacred daily duty.
1. Be Selfish.
Every morning when you wake up ask yourself, “What can I do just for me today?” As women we’re virtuosic “givers,” but happiness requires us to also strengthen our receiving muscles. Start by putting yourself first. Throughout the day ask, “What would bring harmony and balance now?” or “What do I really need in this moment?” Then respond accordingly. Take a bubble bath. Eat a big bowl of oatmeal. Get a pedicure. Go for a walk in the sun. Find ways to nurture yourself and you’ll have so much more to give others.
2. Play with Dirt.
As women we are intricately linked to the cycles and rhythms of the Earth. The more we recognize and synch up with these, the healthier and happier we become. Before you hole yourself up in an air-conditioned office or go for a run on the first day of your menstrual cycle, do yourself a favor. Notice what’s happening inside of you. Notice what’s happening outside of you. Then feel into how you can reconcile the two. Rest and be quiet on the new moon; and dance and throw a dinner party for your girlfriends on the full moon. Eat salads in the summer and hearty stews in the winter; be kind to your body when you’re menstruating, and push its edges when you’re feeling frisky and active.