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5 Signs You’re Dating the Wrong Person

5 Signs You’re Dating the Wrong Person

By eHarmony via DivineCaroline

We all have our dating doubts, but if you are experiencing any of the following issues, you could be investing time in the wrong person.

1. You Don’t Feel Like You Can Be Yourself

Your friends tell you you’ve changed. You are always watching what you say or how you act, because your partner tends to get on your case or has been critical of you in the past. You just never feel completely relaxed around them, even after dating for a good amount of months. If you can’t be who you truly are with your significant other, it’s time to think hard about what you are doing in a situation like this…and why. No one is worth this much sacrifice.

2. You’re Unhappy

While it’s true that our partners aren’t responsible for our happiness, they should certainly make our days a little brighter! Someone who is dating the right person consistently enjoys the relationship and feels a general sense of happiness (arguments aside!). If you find yourself unhappy most of the time — and especially when you are with them — then this may be a sign that this isn’t the best person for you.

3. They Exhaust You

Instead of feeling energized after hanging out with your partner, you feel emotionally drained most of the time. They seem to always have something to complain about, or just have a negative outlook on life. Either way, the person you choose to spend your life with should really lift you up rather than drag you down. And it shouldn’t feel like “work” most of the time.

4. The Friend Factor

If you are with someone and don’t really want to introduce them to your friends, this is not a good sign (and you should ask yourself why!). If you are with someone and they never bring you around their friends, it’s another sign. If your most trusted friends are expressing concern about your relationship, take heart. These people may be able to see things more objectively than you, so it’s important to be open and hear what they have to say.

5. You Never Envision the Future Together
After a certain amount of time together, it is normal to start thinking about what the future might be like as a couple. If you have been with your partner for awhile and just don’t see how it would ever work together down the line, it might be a good idea to evaluate why you are with this person and what you are really looking for.

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11:21AM PDT on Sep 25, 2013

Always important to be able to be yourself, especially in relationships of choice like romance and friendship. Thanks.

6:53PM PST on Mar 4, 2013

All very true.

6:47PM PST on Mar 4, 2013

Something to remember....

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10:13AM PDT on Sep 20, 2012

I'm so glad i have a good relationship. This article made me really miss him (he's at work :/) I love how after a yr and a half with him my heart still beats faster when he texts me or when I know hes on the way home. My son loves him to death, and he is good to me. Heck, I'm smiling like an idiot just typing this :)

10:11AM PDT on Sep 19, 2012

thks its very treu. i dun all the above for comfort an secuirty, which i never had or was given by my parents as a child so it follows thur. I latched on to someone cos they were nice and kind to me but they had no'go' in them. now im 57 and have wasted my life. i never married. Im just stick. feel very lonly, sad and depressed. |Im a very anxious person all my life....Dont get any help from my GP bcos of the NHS cutbacks in the UK

7:25AM PDT on Aug 30, 2012

If you can't be yourself it's not going to work. I've spent a lifetime dating the wrong men and finally came to these same conclusions. Thank you!

11:40AM PDT on Aug 7, 2012

Good tips.

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