Taylor offers some advice for re-connecting with and getting to know your true self:
1. Engage your core: No, it’s not an argument for taking an extra Pilates class. An important part of the re-definition process is thinking about your core set of inner resources. Define yourself by the things you like to do. For example, you may be a creative person who enjoys writing, singing and practicing yoga. You may also be a wife and a mother but, as Taylor points out, those labels describe your relationship to other people, not your relationship with yourself.
2. Talk about yourself: I may sound unusual, but engaging in some third-person self-talk can help you come up with alternative definitions of who you are. Taylor says this method creates a sense of inner spaciousness and freedom that may clear your head and help you plug into your true self. “It puts you in a place where your mind isn’t hijacked by what’s going on, where you’re more than your thoughts,” she says.
3. Connect under the covers: Re-tooling your self-definition doesn’t mean that you have to spend hours sitting alone, meditating on the mysteries of life. Taylor suggests taking a few minutes right after you wake up to connect with your inner being. “Remember who you are before you get out of bed,” she says. Just don’t forget to set your alarm back a few minutes to accommodate your under-the-covers contemplation.
4. Talk to strangers: There’s perhaps no better way to re-invent yourself than by being around people you’ve never met before. Look for groups and clubs in your area that are focused on things you’re interested in. That way, you can explore a personal passion while introducing yourself to people who have no pre-conceived opinions about who you are.
5. Set some goals: Setting personal goals is a great way to explore and re-ignite your passions. This doesn’t mean that you have to draft a comprehensive five-year plan (unless you really want to). According to Taylor, the most important thing about goal setting is consistency. Take ten minutes a day to work towards your target, whether it’s writing the next great American mystery novel or growing an herb garden in your backyard.