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5 Truthful Tips on Waiting for Acceptance

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5 Truthful Tips on Waiting for Acceptance

By Melanie Bates, Owning Pink

Iím sitting outside of my creative writing professorís office. Waiting. Iíve been here every Wednesday for the past eight weeks during his office hours. Waiting. You see, last semester, for the first time in 11 years, I shared a portion of my novel with another living being.

Let me tell you, that wasn’t easy.

I havenít shared my novel with a.n.y.o.n.e. Period. Ever. But with the coaxing of some very dear friends I found my courage (buried somewhere in the trash bin of my mind under some broken eggshells and a couple used ketchup packets) and just did it.

This professor was supposed to read 60 pages of my novel and offer feedback and a critique. As he had hundreds of other ďshitty first draftsĒ to sift through, he said I could pick up my critique on the first day of Spring semester. Iím still waiting.

My inner critic (you remember him right? The cross between Roger Ebert while reviewing the new Dukes of Hazzard movie and Simon Cowell listening to me sing ďSurry with a Fringe on TopĒ) has been having yet another field day.

Inner Critic:
I donít know what you were thinking handing off that drivel to a published author. I know exactly what happened. He was eating a bowl of Hormel chili while he was reading it and around about page 2 he was so disgusted by your writing that he started puking all over your pages. Of course he canít give them back to you now, what with†half-chewed kidney beans and tomato juice all over them. And… do you think he wants to talk to you about how bad it is? After that trauma? Heíd probably start dry-heaving just from the memory of reading it. Let it go.


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6:55PM PDT on May 21, 2011

Thank you!

4:03PM PDT on May 17, 2011

I needed this!

5:58AM PDT on Apr 11, 2011


8:37AM PDT on Apr 9, 2011

Brilliant. Love all you Owning Pink gals. :) x

10:57AM PDT on Apr 7, 2011

awww... thanks all. I'm loving all the positive comments here!

10:56AM PDT on Apr 7, 2011

Patricia D. - Thanks so much! And don't let one little rejection stop you from "applying ass to chair." Some of our most beloved writers have received hundreds of rejections!

10:24AM PDT on Apr 7, 2011

Susan S., that's been my experience too--that there's a problem I've not yet identified blocking progress--but usually I'm able to figure out what it is within a few days to weeks. This time it's much longer and thus more worrisome.

I too love Owning Pink and look for Melanie's posts daily!

6:46AM PDT on Apr 7, 2011

Owning Pink, has been a great experience, and I love going to the site. come join us! Great article, and just a tiny taste of the up feeling you get, when you give yourself permission to go for it!

5:13PM PDT on Apr 6, 2011

I find that when my inner critic actually paralyzes me and stops me from progress or moving forward that is when I have a REALLY serious problem. All people who have become successes have learned from failure. So what I have to do sometimes is to write anonymously and be anonymous.

12:04PM PDT on Apr 6, 2011

Thanks for this. In December I sent off my romantic suspense manuscript to Harlequin and, like most writers who submit to them, I got a form rejection--no mention of what was right/wrong/worked/didn't work. Just "No." And I haven't written a word since then. I know that's an irrational response--I really do--but it is what it is. I'm going to print out that quote and stick it in the front of my writing folder, both the physical one and the one on my computer. Perhaps if I read it again and again, it'll unstick my courage from its cowering-in-the-corner position and I'll write again.

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