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5 Ways to Boost Your Libido

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5 Ways to Boost Your Libido

By Marcelle Pick, OB/GYN, NP, Experience Life

Go to a movie or flip on the television and it’s easy to think that everyone but you has a libido in overdrive. But in the real world, our lives aren’t often very sex-friendly. Most Americans are besieged by stress, work and myriad opportunities for instant gratification — none of which lend themselves to long, leisurely hours of lovemaking.

Remember the freedom we felt in our late teens and early 20s? One of my patients, in remembering these halcyon times, says, “Back then, it seemed like life was an endless summer, wide open with possibility.” As we age, however, we confront the unceasing demands of work, family and a relationship, and it can be difficult to find the freedom and the energy that once fueled our desire.

Most of the patients who come to me with libido issues — and in my more than 30 years as a practitioner, I’ve seen a steadily increasing number of them — are women who range in age from their 30s to their 60s. And, in general, they are simply too wiped out by life’s burdens to even think about, much less feel, their sexual and sensual desires.

The majority of my younger patients are there because they want to know how they can get their libidos back, but I am astonished by the number of 50-year-olds who walk into my office and say that they haven’t had any sexual activity for four years — and they’re OK with it!

This is unfortunate, because revving up your libido isn’t just about sex. Yes, libido is about sexual desire, but it’s also about a vitality, life force and energy that are critical to your overall health and well-being — whether you are 35 or 55 or even 75.

A healthy libido has huge implications, both on a physical level (it helps decrease blood pressure, support a healthier immune system, increase dopamine levels, etc.) and on an emotional level (it instills a sense of empowered calm and a feeling of spark, and it promotes connection and intimacy in relationships, etc.).

Cultivating a healthy sex drive — just like following a nutritious diet or a strenuous workout — takes some focused effort. But the payoff extends far beyond the bedroom.

Although our popular culture seems sexually obsessed, when it comes to discussing the subject of sexual satisfaction in our own lives, we can turn surprisingly shy, or even puritanical. Most of us rarely talk about libido — at least, not in very authentic or respectful terms — but given its importance to our well-being, I think it’s high time we start.

No matter where you are in a relationship, giving yourself permission to be a vital, sensual, fully engaged person is a great way to feel in the prime of life at any time of life.

Sound good? Here are some tips to get you started…

First up: physical issues

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1:48AM PDT on Aug 30, 2013

Thanks for sharing.

2:32PM PDT on Jun 14, 2013

i am now single after 15 years..and for the very first time i am discovering who i truly am and how sensual and gracefully sexy i am. i am in the process of unlearning those acquired sexuality and images and even personality from his point of expectations..just to keep him in my life as my "boyfrien" which really wasn't me and i was not comfortable. i always felt not good enough to have a boyfriend or to have someone "want" me. somedays i struggle and i don't feel beautiful or sexy or glamorous and then there are those days when i feel so fricken incredible and gorgeous. like the article said it all starts with you and your state of mind and how you value yourself.

1:57AM PDT on Jun 9, 2013

Summer certainly helps too!

11:55PM PDT on May 25, 2013


2:47AM PDT on May 22, 2013

Thank you :)

6:55AM PDT on May 21, 2013

Oui, faire l' amour est bon pour la santé.

4:28AM PDT on Apr 25, 2013

I knew it! Yahoo!

7:59AM PDT on Apr 21, 2013


6:02PM PDT on Apr 14, 2013

I'm going to put this tips into practice. Thank you :)

4:17AM PDT on Apr 12, 2013

wow, aren't us humans complicated !!if only i had this knowledge before i settled down with my partner !... we are complete opposites in this department !!

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