By Candace Rotolo, AgingCare.com
Eleven years ago, Beth Marshall got the call no one ever wants to receive. The one telling her that her mother had died.
“It was the most shocking day of my life,” Marshall recalls. A devout Christian, she turned to her faith to get through the heartache. “I thought it wouldn’t be so difficult because I had such a strong faith. I thought I could pray it away.”
That was just one of the many myths Marshall realized during her journey of grief.
During more than 20 years as a bereavement counselor, Louise Kenny, LCSW has recognized six common myths about grieving.
Myth 1: Grief has a timeline
Kenny, who counsels dying patients and their families at Avow Hospice in Naples, Florida, believes this is one of the most common misconceptions. She often hears clients say (or be told by others), ‘It’s been six months or 12 months – you should be over this.’ The truth is, there is no time line. “The grief process is a personal experience and influenced by so many factors,” adds Kenny. “There’s no set timeline to be done with it.”
“People think you should snap out of it,” says Marshall of the grieving process. She admits that more than a decade after her loss, she still cries when she hears a song on the radio that reminds her of her mother. “It doesn’t mean you haven’t gotten better. It means you’ve gotten through the season, and it’s part of the process. You can’t check grief off like a scorecard.”
6 Myths About Grieving originally appeared on AgingCare.com.