By Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project via DivineCaroline
One happiness-project exercise I undertook was to consider the different times of day, and days of the week, to see if any particular dayparts were happiness challenges. In my case, I realized that school mornings were no fun, and I took several steps to make school-day mornings more calm and cheery.
Another common problem time? Monday morning—or rather, the Monday-morning mood, which can strike at any time of the week. Even when you love your job—and especially if you don’t love your job—it can be hard to go back to work on Monday morning. After a few days out of the routine, it can feel jarring and overwhelming to jump back into the workday world. If you take care of kids full time, Mondays can feel easier—or not, depending on what your days are like.
I’ve talked to several people about how they deal with Mondays. Their different answers illustrate a common point: the importance of self-awareness. If you’re aware of the fact those certain times of day, or days of the week, pose a particular happiness challenge, and why, you can take steps to improve them. When do you feel like buckling down? When do you feel like goofing off? Pay attention to your idiosyncratic rhythms.
1. Don’t schedule trying tasks for first thing. One friend used to hate the frantic rush of Monday mornings, so now she doesn’t try to do any “real work” until after lunch on Monday. She eases into the work week by checking email, reading professional email newsletters, and doing more substantial tasks IF she feels like it, but doesn’t consider herself “at work” until 1:30 p.m. The result? She gets about as much done as she did before—she just feels less pressure.
2. Look forward to something. One of my former roommates has always suffered from the Sunday Blues. Now she deals with it by making sure she has something to look forward to on Monday: she schedules lunch with a friend, excuses herself from some daily task that she doesn’t enjoy, or figures out some other way to improve the day. Once Monday morning actually comes, she’s always fine—she just suffers from dread on Sunday. Having something pleasant to anticipate lessens the feeling.
3. Set your own priorities. Another friend gets to work at 8:00 a.m. but doesn’t “react” to anything until 10:00 a.m.—on Monday or any other day. For the first two hours of work, he works only on tasks that he’s set himself. By not answering email, returning phone calls, or working on someone else’s request until 10:00, he takes care of his own priorities first. I would never be able to postpone checking my email for the first two hours at my desk, but I understand why it works for him.
4. Make the most of the morning. Speaking of mornings, studies show that the brain is often better able to tackle cognitive tasks before noon, so Monday morning, when you’re also fresh from the weekend, may be a great time to tackle a challenging task. This is an issue for me right now. I definitely do my best thinking early in the day, but it’s also the most convenient time for me to go to the gym (my gym is in the same building where my younger daughter goes to nursery school, so after I drop her off in the morning, I’m right there). I hate to miss using this valuable brain time, but if I don’t exercise in that slot, I’m much more apt to miss it altogether. I still haven’t figured out how to balance these considerations.
5. Shuffle the schedule. Maybe something is making Mondays unnecessarily tough. Could you suggest moving the weekly meeting from Monday morning to Wednesday morning, so you don’t feel like you’re starting your week by sitting in a long meeting? Could a report be due on Tuesday, instead of Monday, to give you a little cushion?
6. Find some fun. If you really don’t feel like coming to work on Monday morning, think of some workplace ritual—that just involves you, or even better, involves some coworkers—to make re-entry more fun. A little bit of fun can make a big difference in making an unpleasant situation more bearable. I once ate at a diner where the wait staff kept a chalkboard where they wrote the names of movies they’d seen, with their brief reviews. “Excellent.” “Worthless.” “Boring, but my boyfriend loved it.” This sounds like a small thing, but it looked like they got a big kick out of it.
7. Roll with it. The change I’ve made in my approach to my Monday morning is this: don’t expect to have a regular schedule. I love routine and predictability, but the way my life is right now, every day is different. For a while, that made me feel frustrated and inefficient. Now I’m trying to embrace and enjoy it.
Because I’ve always had an office job, these tips are best suited for people who work in that environment. If you have a non-office job, what tips would you offer for coping with Monday morning—or the Monday-morning mood?