7 Ways To Stop Slut-Shaming

By Brock Hansen for YourTango.com.

Slut-shaming is the act of trying to humiliate a woman for her sexuality.

Slut shaming is the latest form of cyberbullying. Like all bullying, it is motivated by the perpetrator’s desire for attention. Social media makes it easy and tempts cyberbullies because they can do it with little risk to themselves. However, because bullying is so emotionally damaging, it is important to fight this dangerous trend.

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Sex at any age involves trust and self-exposure, but especially for adolescents just learning to trust themselves and their partners in relationships. When slut shaming exposes someone to intense humiliation and possibly further social ostracism, the emotional damage can be terrible. A recent online article by 16-year-old rookie reporter Temitayo Fagbenle on slut shaming was discussed recently on NPR’s show All Things Considered.

Here are seven ways you can help stop this trend:

1. If you are a friend of the victim: Reach out and tell a trusted adult. Ask him/her to set up some kind of intervention supporting the victim and confronting the bully.

2. If you are a friend of the perpetrator: Tell him/her it is not cool to be cruel and no form of bullying is okay.

3. If you are an acquaintance of the perpetrator or the victim: Don’t participate in the shaming. Boycott it at least or confront it if you can. You could even consider un-friending the perpetrator.

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4. If you are a parent or teacher who becomes aware of it: Make sure the victim has supportive counseling and take the appropriate steps to discipline the perpetrator.

5. If you are the victim: Tell a friend or a trusted adult. You may fear getting into trouble but being isolated is worse. A guidance counselor should be able to listen and help without judging you.

6. If you are a school administrator or guidance counselor: Be aware of the potentially deadly repercussions public shaming can have. Don’t assume that silence from the victim is a sign of strength or safety.

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7. If you are the perpetrator or considering such a prank: Know that anyone can be the target of social ostracism; it could even happen to you. Many teens, both boys and girls, have comitted suicide over such humilation. Is that what you want?

This article originally appeared on YourTango.com: 7 Ways To Fight Slut-Shaming.

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96 comments

MaryBeth Pacific
MaryBeth Pacific2 years ago

thanks

Myriam G.
Myriam G.2 years ago

Wow! This article originally comes from a 16-yo?!? I'm really impressed! Kuddos to Temitayo Fagbenle; your article is kind and understanding, yet to the point. It encourages others to stand up to bullying, it brings some comfort to the victims, and it tells it straight to anyone who might be tempted to become a bully. Congratulations!!! Keep up the good work!!!

Angela J.
Angela B.2 years ago

This type of bullying has been going on for a lot longer than the internet!!

GGma Sheila D.
GGmaSheila D.2 years ago

To Jade'Lyn L - this is bullying. This is the debasing of a female, it is the demeaning of another person. It is putting the person who issues the nasty words in the position of power. That is what bullying is - a form of verbal abuse. Any kind of abuse, verbal, nonverbal is demeaning the other person, making the abuser, the bully, feel big, powerful, better than the one he/she is bullying.

Cyber-bullying IS bullying - it IS abuse!

Aud Nordby
Aud nordby2 years ago

ty

Monica T.
Monica T.2 years ago

Thank you for posting this...

Eternal Gardener
Eternal Gardener2 years ago

Good on you for posting this!

Ryan Yehling
Ryan Yehling2 years ago

I kinda like being a slut tho free love ya'll

Ryan Yehling
Ryan Yehling2 years ago

Thanks for sharing!

Summerannie Moon
Summerannie M.2 years ago

Sorry that word is just plain disgusting and I wouldnt ever use it.
I really dislike hearing it from either males or females. To see it written makes me sick as hearing it b/c Im sure there is a word that isnt so derogatory to use and besides men arent called that are they? I would also think that those who use the word have a lack of a eloquence or being lady-like.