A few days ago, I accidentally gave more money to my taxi driver than I meant to. I was immediately upset, and wondered how I could get it back. My son said, “Mom, let it be. Think of how happy the little extra money must have made him … he must have bought something for his family, or perhaps set it aside for his children.”
His words touched me.
I donít know how good a person I am, but I at least try to self-correct when I realize I have been less-than-nice. I also try to see the goodness in others, and find some simple traits common to the “likeable” tribe. Here are my observationsóplease add yours, too!
- Likable people are not afraid to say “I made a mistake.” “I acted in haste.” “I am sorry.” They know that to err is human, and to admit it is divine!
- They are not afraid to be honest if they donít like something you have done or created. But they express their opinion gently and warmly. Their constructive criticism also means they are genuine when they praise you.
- They are not insecure, so they are not afraid to appreciate good work. †Their spontaenous encouragement and appreciation makes people like them.
- They embrace the vocabulary of the happy mind. Words such as “wonderful,” “good,” and “fun” are never far from their mind.
- People take their advice because lovable people have a gentle way of offering it. Instead of “donít,” “wonít”†and “canít,” †they are likely to say, “perhaps you could…” or “I am sure it will help if you…”
- Those who win hearts have large hearts. Generous and giving, they feel for the less privileged. They are kind and warm toward everyone, regardless of looks, money or social status.