6 Wonderful Habits of Lovable People

A few days ago, I accidentally gave more money to my taxi driver than I meant to. I was immediately upset, and wondered how I could get it back. My son said, “Mom, let it be. Think of how happy the little extra money must have made him … he must have bought something for his family, or perhaps set it aside for his children.”

His words touched me.

I donít know how good a person I am, but I at least try to self-correct when I realize I have been less-than-nice. I also try to see the goodness in others, and find some simple traits common to the “likeable” tribe. Here are my observationsóplease add yours, too!

  • Likable people are not afraid to say “I made a mistake.” “I acted in haste.” “I am sorry.” They know that to err is human, and to admit it is divine!
  • They are not afraid to be honest if they donít like something you have done or created. But they express their opinion gently and warmly. Their constructive criticism also means they are genuine when they praise you.
  • They are not insecure, so they are not afraid to appreciate good work. †Their spontaenous encouragement and appreciation makes people like them.
  • They embrace the vocabulary of the happy mind. Words such as “wonderful,” “good,” and “fun” are never far from their mind.
  • People take their advice because lovable people have a gentle way of offering it. Instead of “donít,” “wonít”†and “canít,” †they are likely to say, “perhaps you could…” or “I am sure it will help if you…”
  • Those who win hearts have large hearts. Generous and giving, they feel for the less privileged. They are kind and warm toward everyone, regardless of looks, money or social status.

Related:
10 Things Unhappy People Have in Common

103 comments

Don Swanz
Don Swanz2 years ago

I working on it. Don and WE CAN! :-))

Tanya Selth
Tanya Selth2 years ago

thanks

Susan T.
Susan T.2 years ago

...and sometimes likable people don't follow the rules and don't flaunt it. it is not a statement, it is common (not so lately) . Why is gender,sex identity, ethnicity so important lately?

Gosh when I was growing up we were all people. what the hell happened? good people, bad people...whatever.

Jane H.
Jane H.3 years ago

may their tribe increase...

Don Swanz
Don Swanz3 years ago

As I looked in the mirror this morning and completed another self-evaluation, I realized that Suubhkra was referring to me when she wrote this article. I just need a wee bit more fine tuning to raise my standards. Don and I CAN! :-))

Shanti S.
S S.3 years ago

Thank you.

Dot A.
Dot A.3 years ago

Compliments to Shubhra*
You've gathered so much 'lovable' energy here from so many 'lovable people!'

Bonnie M.
Bonnie M.3 years ago

Thank you- we need to be reminded. I love these words of yours:
Those who win hearts have large hearts. Generous and giving, they feel for the less privileged. They are kind and warm toward everyone, regardless of looks, money or social status.

How often we forget the burdens the other person carries, 'coz we are so wrapped up in our own self-serving interests and so quick to pass judgment.

Read more: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/7-wonderful-habits-of-people-who-win-hearts.html#ixzz2eUsvLOpd

Jane L.
Jane L.3 years ago

I really like the first three points. #2 especially applies to me. I'm not afraid to gently point out something gone wrong, but that same person also feels it when I genuinely compliment them about something gone right :)

Don Swanz
Don Swanz3 years ago

"THANK YOU" for this wonderful post SHUBHRA. I reckon that I've got a wee bit to work on here. Fortunately, I've got the rest of my life to work at it and get it right. Don and I CAN! :-))