By Tara Kennedy-Kline, Dr. Stephanie Buehler, and Jen Duchene for YourTango.com.
Challenge #12: Get in the mood for love with one of these erotic ideas.
Looking to take your sex life to the next level? If you’re like most other committed couples, you love each other to pieces — but between long hours at the office, the dropping the kids off at school, you just want to curl up in bed at the end of the day — and sleep is the only thing on your mind.
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So how do you keep the passion churning? How do you build the tension slowly and steadily so that — when you do climb into bed — it will be all you can do to keep your hands off each other? Here are 8 of the hottest turn-ons that any couple should try (at least once — if not twice or three times). Try any one of them and you’re guaranteed to have the wildest, hottest, toe-curling sex you and your man could ever imagine.
Massage His Prostate
Straight men enjoy anal play, too. Your guy may have already tried massaging his own prostate during masturbation … so why not to do it for him? To do a manual massage, lubricate your fingers and his anus. While he breathes and pushes out, insert a finger 2-3 inches. Curve your finger toward his belly button until you feel a ridge, much like the ridge on the edge of a walnut and stroke. If you’d rather not use your fingers, you can buy a prostate massager (they look like short vibrators). Give it to him as a gift and suggest he try it on his own first, then show you what he’d like you to do. It’s a sexy, unexpected treat for your guy. —Dr. Stephanie Buehler
Pick Each Other Up At A Local Bar
My husband and I have been together since high school, so neither of us got to experience the thrill of meeting and flirting with strangers in a bar. So we invented this little game where we flirt with strangers to see who gets hit on first. We go to separate corners of the bar and hang out, chatting with strangers. The first person to get hit on wins. My husband knows I like to flirt, so he’ll come up and act like he doesn’t know me and start feeding me pickup lines. Admittedly, this game requires a lot of trust and confidence, but by the time we’re ready to go home, we usually don’t even make it out of the parking lot (one of the secret perks to owning a minivan). —Tara Kennedy-Kline
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Blindfold Each Other
Heightened sensitivity of physical sensation adds excitement and electricity when you have to anticipate and imagine a touch you cannot see. Nothing will matter but what you feel. If your partner’s usually the dominant one in bed, blindfold them first. It’s an enticing way to tip the balance. Undress your lover as part of the build-up to a slow burning climax. Props like feathers, rose petals or oils can be introduced to stroke the skin. Keep in mind that this is about building passion through the sensation of touch and love in a safe environment and not about creating fear. As always, make sure you’ve set the rules of the game with your partner before plunging into the dark. —Jen Duchene
Tell Your Partner “No”
If things have gotten stale, you can trick your significant other’s mind into craving you by pretending that sex is off limits. Tell your partner that you are not going to let them have sex with you until a certain day and time. Then tease them. Lift your shirt or hike your skirt. Shake your booty. Pout your lips. Show them what they aren’t getting. Build up the tension by denying them of what they want most — you! —Dr. Stephanie Buehler
Have Forbidden Sex
There’s nothing hotter than a quick rendezvous with the added excitement of possibly getting caught. If your partner has their own office, showing up sans undies with a picnic of oils and oysters. Doing it against the locked door can be thrilling — even if the office is at home. (Surprise may not be the best way to show up at the office building.) There is even greater eroticism in planning the “sexploit” together. Build anticipation by packing your partner’s lunch for work to include some saucy bits you will both enjoy. Begin the day with you both going commando or swap underwear bottoms so you increase the slow anticipation. Build on that by sexting each other. If you don’t have an office, get creative about a place that would be exciting, forbidden and safe enough to do the dirty without getting caught too easily, if at all. When was the last time you could wait to get into a room to get into each other? —Jen Duchene
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Show Some Skin
Couples don’t spend much time naked together. We shower and dress, or pull off our clothes and get into pajamas. What about hanging around nude one afternoon? Or having Sunday breakfast sans clothing? Being naked allows you too feel more comfortable with your body — no matter your size — and give you confidence. It’s a sexy way to establish an intimacy and trust with each other. If you have kids, put a lock on your bedroom door and spend time together without clothing. You can even visit a nude resort like the Terra Cotta Inn in Palm Springs. Of course, there will be exhibitionists and voyeurs, but most people are there just to be able to hang out and feel free in their skin. —Dr. Stephanie Buehler
Learn Something New And Exciting Together
Cooking, Ballroom dancing, macramé … it doesn’t matter what the topic is, just that you’re both learning together. There’s an added bonus if you can share private promises during class of how you can use your new talents to spice it up in the bedroom. Macramé handcuffs? Oh yeah, that works! —Tara Kennedy-Kline
Exchange Erotic Letters
Express your love and desire through words. Add romantic touches using wax seals or pressed petals. Describe in bold, intimate detail how you imagine the two of you will make love and the feelings that it will evoke. Create a secret world between the two of you. Take turns exchanging letters to suggest a tryst, which could vary from the bedroom to the bathroom or even under the stars. This is your story. Have fun indulging in the pent-up passion built between you. —Jen Duchene
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