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9 Myths About Soul Mate Relationships

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Myth 3: Soul mates are always romantic.
Real life is seldom like romantic movies or novels. While it’s true that in the beginning of relationships our hormones are in frenzy so the passion and romance is usually high, those chemicals soon wane and we’re left with true love . . . or true disappointment.

Also, we shouldn’t compare real life romance with what we see on the screen or read in magazines or books. When you think about it, what is romance, really? Candy and jewelry and flowers? Those are just materialistic things. Each person expresses romance in different ways. Using my relationship as an example, Mike isn’t the most romantic guy if you go by what Cosmo or novels label as real romance. Instead of feeling hurt or irked about his nonromantic ways, I pay attention to other things he does. He always opens doors for me, compliments me, pays for vacations, won’t let me help bring in the groceries if it’s raining, cooks dinner a few nights week, does dishes and laundry, sends an “I miss you” greeting card if he’s out of town, etc. Not once have I ever gotten flowers or jewelry, that’s not his romance style, but I’ve grown to love his style and find it incredibly romantic.

The lesson here is to not force a man to comply with your idea of romance. You can meet in the middle and also pay attention to his personal romance style. This one tip alone could mean the difference between falling (or staying) in love or constantly being disappointed.

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9:55AM PDT on Sep 30, 2015

I believe fully in soul mates!
I saw mine 32yrs ago & then married him 16yrs ago. We have fought like cats & dogs but we never let anyone outside our relationship influence our very special bond.

I also believe in more than 1 soul mate...
I have friends that r my soul mate in a platonic fashion. I know & trust them w my deepest of sorrows & happiest happys! And visa-versa!

Trust is a mighty word. Not all of us r capable of trusting anyone let a lone a lover.
B it from childhood or adulthood.

Trust ='s love

I hope everyone looking for their soul mate finds them. Who knows u might of already met.....

Chemistry is the start...

4:37PM PDT on May 9, 2015

Soul mates ?? a modern cliche and an Ideal we would all love to be... and be with!
but the reality is that this is yet another unachievable and unrealistic aspiration for the majority of us ...mores the pity!!

4:36PM PDT on May 9, 2015

Soul mates ?? a modern cliche and an Ideal we would all love to be... and be with!
but the reality is that this is yet another unachievable and unrealistic aspiration for the majority of us ...mores the pity!!

6:43PM PST on Dec 1, 2014


1:01PM PST on Nov 24, 2014

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3:10AM PDT on Jun 10, 2014

Begin with agreement about spiritual, political &/or ethical values. Add experiences together. If chemistry comes or is happening, that is great, too. We are ALL soulmates. We are ALL interconnected. However, besides working on your own self, it helps to partner with similar in order to save your energy & self-nurture. Creativity can occur with both closely OR widely similar partners. Respect and kindness, intelligence and tolerance go a long way towards wrapping souls more closely. It takes 110% on each person's caring concern part to have a HAPPY soul mate experience. But we are ALL split from one huge beautiful soul and carry stardust in our DNA. You must have soul to recognise soul. Mate? Quickest answer comes through shared diversity OR a cross country car trip.

3:12PM PDT on May 6, 2014

Interesting how the author believes in soul mates, as not all people do. But I do like how the author says it does require work and that conflict doesn't mean the relationship will crash. People are after all not the same as each other and this is inevitable. Thanks.

4:27AM PDT on May 5, 2014


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