A Letter to My Kids About Life

Dear Kids,

I’m taking the time to write this to you today, years before there’s a chance that you’ll ever read it.

One of my reasons for doing this is simply because I want to affirm some things that I see you doing and some of the ways you are being before you forget them.

But also, I want to give you an example of how life is a never ending journey that is filled with shades of gray.

So, although you’re not quite ready to hear me talk about all of the challenges in my life, hopefully what follows will help you understand that no one has it all figured out… even your dad.

And that’s OK.

Part I: Who You Are – What You Want

When I started out in life and business, I was missing some key ingredients.

I didn’t know much about being an entrepreneur (I had just quit my job and decided to go out on my own. If I teach you right and you decide my suggestion is right for you, hopefully, you’ll never have a job, so this won’t be an issue.) and I lacked confidence in myself.

But most importantly, I lacked a clear understanding of who I was and what I wanted.

I don’t blame anyone for that but myself. It was pretty much my way of surviving, I imagine. A way to avoid conflict and to ensure that I didn’t ruffle any feathers.

If you don’t shine too brightly, there’s less of a chance of sticking out and calling attention to yourself.

So that’s where I want to begin, with the whole idea of who you are and what you want.

It’s funny that this is even an issue for me at 33, because right now, at your age, you are very, very clear about WHO you are and what you want.

I’m writing to you to tell you never to forget that.

Just a word of warning…

As you grow up, people around you might react to your clarity in a variety of ways.

To some, your ability to be clear and to say exactly what you want will make them uncomfortable. It might make some angry.

Please don’t listen to them. Their lives are the way they are, in part, because they aren’t able to clearly articulate what they want.

This lack of ability creates a lot of suffering in the world.

I will do my best to steer you around it now that I understand how it works.

Two of the keys to living a full life are to understand who you are and to be clear about what you want.

Everything else flows from that.

Next: How to Become Successful

Part II: How to Become Successful

I used to think that in order to become successful, I had to become more like successful people.

So I read a lot of books about other people.

I read about Carnegie… I read about Bill Gates… I read about Felix Dennis…

The books I read were packed with pages and pages of “how to do it” information and stories of how others became successful.

Little did I know at the time that I was walking in the opposite direction of success.

Instead of learning how to be more like someone else, my focus should have been on learning how to become a more effective version of me.

In business, there’s this idea of the unique selling proposition. In a nut shell, it’s how what you have to offer is different (and therefore better) than anything else out there. (This is also a valuable strategy for life in general, by the way.)

Being you… thinking the way you think… doing things the way you do them… your take on the world….

That’s your USP. It’s built in. Those are your competitive advantages.

But if those are not well developed, because you have not taken the time to develop them, then those differences are hardly noticeable at best, and completely hidden at worst.

This will work against you, because there will be no obvious reason for people and opportunities to flock to you over another.

You will be competing against the herd and your journey will be harder than it needs to be.

So despite what you might read in books, I recommend that you do become a pioneer.

After all, there’s really no other way to be successful as you.

You’re the only one living your life. So you are a pioneer whether or not you like it.

The only question is how effective you’ll be.

How do you measure success?

I can’t tell you that because that’s a decision that only you can make.

For me, success means that I’m a better version of myself today than I was yesterday.

Maybe that will work for you. Maybe not.

I’m probably on a very different journey than you are on, so please figure this out for yourself.

Just listen… you’ll hear the answer.

Next: Money

Part III: Money

You’ll hear a lot of stories about money as you grow up.

Some will say it’s good.

Others will say it’s evil.

Still others will say it’s OK as long as you only have enough… not too much.

Here’s my advice: They’re all lying.

Money has no meaning.

So when you hear people arguing about it… when you hear them say it’s good to have it… when you hear them say it’s bad to have it…

Please just ignore all of them.

They are wrong.

Money is energy. It flows to people who understand it.

It flows away from people who do not.

Don’t listen to the stories about money, just watch what it does and watch how it moves.

Here are facts:

As I write this, money is required to do things in the world.

Want to go to Italy and live there for 6 months?

You need money.

Needing money is not bad…

Needing money is not good…

Needing money just is.

Be OK with that.

But my recommendation is to develop a deep understanding of how it works. That way you can use it as a tool to live your life, instead of being like most people who use up their life working for it.

If you want to create a lot of it… go ahead.

If you want to exist with little of it, that’s your choice.

If you have other plans, pursue them, just don’t forget Part I of my letter.

You see, money isn’t evil.

Wanting money isn’t evil.

Going out of your way to get money isn’t evil.

It’s all a story. Someone else’s story.

The only thing that matters in life is your story. That’s why you’re here.

You’re here to write your own story.

Next: Know What You Stand For

Part IV: Know What You Stand For

In order to attract to yourself the people, the experiences and the opportunities that will make your life full, you have to shine a bright light out into the world.

Its message cannot be mixed, uncertain or unclear.

When the message you send out into the world based on who you are, what you do and what you offer is clear and powerful, you will attract just about anything you want.

But to do that, you have to know what you stand for. Of course, this list will change over time as you grow, but my hunch is that it will not change very much.

Just to give you an example of what I’m talking about, I’m going to give you my list below. Please don’t let any of these items make their way onto your list word for word.

You have your own list to make.

Again, if I’ve done my job well by the time you read this, you’ll already know your list without giving it a whole lot of thought.

What I Stand For

  • I stand for being real. For being who you are no matter what everyone says about it. Being anything else is living a lie. And it will kill you on the inside far before you die on the outside.
  • I stand for looking out for my own best interest. If I choose to help others, that is my choice to make. For helping others is a gift you give, not something you are forced to do.
  • I stand for power. Not the loud strong arm way of acting people see on the outside, but the quiet power that exists on the inside. It’s this power that you use to create anything you want in your life.
  • I stand for taking 100% responsibility for my life. This applies to the good the bad and the ugly. 100% responsibility means no exceptions.
  • I stand for living my life how I choose to live it, provided I do not tread on the freedoms of others’ ability to do the same.

In the end, the best advice I can give you is this:

Be true to who you are and take one step at a time. There’s no rush.

I wish you the best of luck on your journey,

Your dad.


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Tommy W.
Tommy Wong3 years ago

I've also written a letter to my son - link below:

Talya Honor
Tal H.3 years ago

Thanks for sharing!

Cheryl I.
Past Member 3 years ago

Thank you.

Sue H.
Sue H.3 years ago

Lovely, thanks.

Nyack Clancy
Nyack Clancy3 years ago

Noted- thank you

andrew h.
- -.3 years ago

thanks Jason

to help kids:

from Yogananda:

"Children should be taught to concentrate and meditate. By practicing the scientific techniques of meditation, they will, from early life, reveal intuitive faculties that will enable them to grasp knowledge with extraordinary quickness.

Education does not consist of pumping ideas and facts into the brain. It consists of developing one’s intuitive faculties and bringing the hidden soul-memory of all knowledge onto the plane of human consciousness. All new truths are simply the hidden truths of the soul; they give us joy upon rediscovery.

The development of intuition quickens human evolution. Teach children to quicken their own evolution through meditation. Have a little family altar where parents and children gather to offer deep devotion to God, and to unite their souls in meditation."

more here:

Kristine Huff
Kristine H.3 years ago