A Positive Inheritance

We all want to pass on to our progeny what is most precious to us.  Mistakenly we often think about our inheritance in terms of material wealth.  What we most deeply transfer to our children is the best and worst of our character.  Probably no one sees our failings as clearly as our teenage children. I have learned long ago that I can get nothing by them, so I don’t even try. They witness my struggles to stay committed, to keep my promises, to face my challenges with dignity. They know my failures and have picture perfect memories of many of the days that I missed the mark.

Happily what also seems to translate over time, often imperceptibly are the values and daily practices that make us who we are. In my case, the last 18 months has given my kids daily doses of my work to both see the world positively and to make a positive contribution to the world.  More and more frequently they see me take breaks to rest, exercise and meditate, the three practices that most efficiently bring me back in to balance.

Lately as they have been facing their own growing challenges they have joined me in my practices.  My eldest daughter has opened up to the power of full presence and is vigilantly noticing all of the moments that pull her away from it. My younger son has discovered the power of meditation since his frightening accidents earlier this year and to relieve anxiety before his basketball games. I love teaching them about this work that has given me the capacity to love my life.

Today we all lay down together to meditate, when my son commented in his dry and teen mocking tone about how “I am about to have a perfect moment…” It was true and funny as I lay draped by my kids doing what I love most.  We all started to laugh and each time we started the guided meditation over, laughed harder.  I have heard about laughing meditation before but had never achieved it until today.

Later that day,  Luke went to his games, looking only for that feeling of falling into yourself and doing what you love so completely that you are literally lost in the present.  There isn’t a scoreboard, there is just the game.  And a fast moving game it was against a team called the Elite…  His team stepped it up and were gallant, and he in his full presence, let his body do what it knew how to do and rained threes. Mostly I just witnessed the utter joy of being fully and completely in life. No over thinking, no comparisons, just the pure thrill of being you.

These are the days when I am so grateful to have an inheritance worth something to pass on.

Read more: Wendy’s Positivity Quest

50 comments

Margarita G.
Margarita G.3 years ago

Thanks!

Nimue Pendragon
Nimue Pendragon3 years ago

Cheers Wendy :)

jane richmond
jane richmond4 years ago

Great post.
My husband's parents put everything into his brother's name when my husband got sick. Basically he was disowned. When asked why? Mother said she could no longer count on us since we would now be busy taking care of him( HER SON). What lesson does that teach her grandchildren?
Material things go but memories remain almost forever.

Shiyi C.
Sh C.4 years ago

Wonderful post. Best wishes to you and your family!

K s Goh
KS Goh4 years ago

Thanks for the article.

Elena Arutiunova
Elena Arutiunova4 years ago

Very useful! Thx!

William Ford
William Ford4 years ago

thanks

Jos� Mar�a Olmos Sant

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caterina caligiuri

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Bob P.
Bob P.5 years ago

thanks for a great post