Many people seek to be free from difficult emotions such as anger, fear, and grief, and seek the more pleasant emotions such as joy, happiness, and bliss. The usual strategy for achieving happiness involves either repressing or expressing negative emotions in the hope that they will be pushed from sight or released.
There is another possibility; find out what it is here:
Unfortunately, neither repressing nor expressing negative emotions reflects the truth of one’s inherent self, which is an unmoving purity of being that exists deeper than any emotion and remains unaffected by any emotion.
There are certainly times when it is appropriate to repress or express an emotion. But there is also another possibility: to neither repress nor express. Gangaji calls this “direct experience.”
To directly experience any emotion is to neither deny it nor to wallow in it, and this means that there can be no story about it. There can be no storyline about who it is happening to, why it is happening, why it should not be happening, who is responsible, or who is to blame.
In the midst of any emotion, so-called “negative” or “positive,” it is possible to discover what is at the core. The truth is that when you really experience any negative emotion, it disappears. And when you truly experience any positive emotion, it grows and is endless.