Are you a perfectionist? I know that I am, but it’s usually hard for me to admit… because, true to my perfectionist nature, I don’t feel like I’m close enough to perfect to admit to being a perfectionist.
Being a perfectionist is exhausting, especially since it means we typically get caught up in our own interpretation of what that means (and it’s usually pretty stringent). For some reason, we perfectionists tend to define perfection as being the opposite of who we are naturally. We have an image in our minds of what perfection looks like, but she definitely doesn’t resemble us at all. So, we try and try to match up to the unrealistic image in our heads, but we’re never satisfied because at the end of the day, that person isn’t us.
But what I’ve been learning is that perfection isn’t the rigid definition we usually think of. I believe that perfection is acceptance; it’s knowing who we are, embracing it, and growing in our strengths. To try to be another person is to continue to pursue imperfection; to live authentically as ourselves is to strive to be perfect in who we have always been meant to be. What you view as one of your greatest weaknesses could actually be your biggest strength — especially if you stop denying it and position it towards a positive outcome.
As perfectionists, we need to give up the notion of being the perfect person and start being ourselves. Because, after all, no one’s going to be better at being you than you.
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