It’s sort of a funny thing for me to write about rest because I spend so much time writing about taking action. That doesn’t necessarily mean strenuous physical action; I’m talking about making decisions instead of letting the world pile up around you. I’m talking about doing whatever needs to be done to change your life — taking a class, keeping a journal, learning a new way, gathering with other like-minded people, or something else that will expand your horizons.
Often, I write about getting off our collective rear ends and hauling our stuff to the donation and recycling centers to make space for what we really want to flow into our lives. (I actually write a great deal about that.) Today is different because when I asked the Sick of Being Stuck community what topics were on their minds, this was the first response:
“Resting. A very intense and physical last couple of days, body not liking me too much today, so day of pampering body. Hope your day is going great, Christy! We have a wonderful sunshiny day and I hope yours is as well!”
Sometimes, we just have to rest. Especially after a spell of great intensity, one night of sleep may not be enough to restore our energy, strength, and spirit. And for most of us, the hours that we sleep are the only ones where rest actually has the opportunity to happen.
Otherwise, we go and go, often long past what feels good and true for our bodies. This is made possible, of course, by our willingness to detach from the physical body to go live in our heads. It allows us to betray ourselves, and nothing good has ever come from that.
Once more for clarity, nothing good has ever come from us betraying ourselves.
I’m not going to pretend that it’s not hard to pause when there is so much to be done. It is, or at least it can feel that way. It can feel like when we were little girls and boys, and we earned by doing instead of being. We bought peace with chores, love with grades or home runs or recitals, and security with silence. We earned affection by being adorable.