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Align Yourself With Possibility

Align Yourself With Possibility

Putting attention on your feelings gets you closer to the state of witnessing; you observe the pain without getting wrapped up in all the secondary blame, avoidance, and denial that usually follows.

In the act of witnessing, insight becomes possible. It takes detachment to bring understanding, and if you get caught up in your hurt, you won’t see the reason behind it. No one can hurt you today without triggering a hurt from your past. You have to see that in order to find yourself.

As you learn to say, “I feel hurt,” and really be with that feeling, more openness will develop. The emotions that frighten us are the complex ones, because they overwhelm the natural release mechanism. You cannot simply release guilt or depression. They are secondary formations that arose once you forgot how to release hurt.

The more hurt you honestly feel, the more comfortable you will be with pain, because the ability to release it will grow. As this happens, you will feel easier about all your other emotions. (To a blocked mind, feeling “positive” emotions such as love and trust is often just as difficult as feeling “negative” emotions such as hate and distrust. Both are blocked by old unresolved hurts.)

Feeling easy with your emotions means that you won’t get so entangled in other people’s. Instead of blaming the ones who hurt you, you will be able to forgive.

The lessons of this exercise are very profound, and it puts you back into the present, and present-moment awareness never ages. It is the same when you are 5 or 85. The discovery of freedom in the present opens the door for the permanent experience of timelessness, in which past, present, and future are revealed as illusions compared to the true reality, which is always here and now.

Adapted from Ageless Body, Timeless Mind, by Deepak Chopra (Three Rivers Press, 1998).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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11:27PM PDT on May 7, 2013

Exactly what I needed...thanks Deepak :)

4:56AM PDT on Mar 15, 2013

Very helpful article.

3:31PM PST on Mar 3, 2013

thought provoking

2:55AM PST on Nov 7, 2012

Such a motivational thinking, thank you!

10:28AM PST on Nov 4, 2012


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11:46AM PST on Nov 14, 2011

nothing to believe

12:06PM PST on Nov 13, 2011

This website is sooo buggy! To finish the previous post, Gaby D:

In fact, the memory of the traumatic event is less important, it is the feeling NOW. If we can find and express that feeling, the memory of the event may then come to surface.And the event may be spread in episodes over years, not just a one-off.

It is not easy. Understanding arises as we clear out the old emotions, we become able to think more clearly and act more effectively

Mindfulness is the key to unlock the door behind which lurk the emotions that deprive us of true peace.

“Sitting quietly, doing nothing, spring comes, and the grass grows by itself.”

11:40AM PST on Nov 13, 2011

Uma :
Ahamkara is that aspect of the personal mind which gives rise to the illusion of a seprate 'ego'. It means literally the " I-maker".

11:29AM PST on Nov 13, 2011

Care2 did that not me...
AnyWay :
It is important to realise that, under all the complex and viloent emotions there is a "foundation" of sadness, grief. Grieving for a lost childhood, a lost happiness, a lost life that might have been wholly other.

"When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep."

Kahlil Gibran...... check it out.

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