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Am I Thinking For Myself?

Am I Thinking For Myself?

Once you seriously ask, ďAm I thinking for myself?Ē the entire hierarchy of identity starts to unravel. If you keep asking without being daunted, eventually you get closer to the core. This is the final level of false identity.

Am I thinking for myself? Or am I thinking like: The person I was yesterday; the person I wish I could be; an ideal image of myself, a nobody trying to be a somebody.

We put on these layers of false identity in order to be separate from everybody else, to feel unique and special. Yet at the same time we know that separation is the problem. Common humanity is beyond self-image. Itís beyond the issue of whether you are a somebody or a nobody.

If you follow the way of peace you donít try so desperately not to be a nobody. Those distinctions stop having power over you, because you turn into something different. Instead of a label, you become human. Instead of ďI am X,Ē you become ďI am.Ē The healing of separation is the beginning of true knowledge.

This transformation isnít mystical. If I confront the first layer of false identity, I simply catch myself thinking like a type. I pay attention to my reactions when I start sounding too much like a typical Indian, a typical doctor, a typical middle-aged male. Having caught myself, I stop. Just that.

I can then proceed a bit deeper. I catch myself whenever I am talking so that someone else will like me better. If my words are a disguised way of saying, Love me, accept me, respect me, I stop. Thereís nothing mystical in that act. Instead of talking, I listen. Instead of serving my own self-interest, I think about what everyone wants, or what is moral and good despite what everyone wants.

Finally, if I am thoroughly honest, I get to the deepest level. If I catch myself talking for the sake of my ego, I stop. Again, it all starts with the thought, This isnít the real me.

Adapted from: Peace Is the Way, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2005).

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Deepak Chopra

Acknowledged as one of the world's greatest leaders in the field of mind body medicine, Deepak Chopra, M.D. continues to transform our understanding of the meaning of health. Chopra is known as a prolific author of over 49 books with 12 best sellers on mind-body health, quantum mechanics, spirituality, and peace. A global force in the field of human empowerment, Dr. Chopra's books have been published in more than 35 languages with more than 20 million copies in print.


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3:13PM PST on Jan 17, 2013


the i am

is love


love lives

all else falls

9:54AM PST on Jan 17, 2013

Thanks, I start each day with a new me....

5:54AM PST on Jan 17, 2013

a good question to ask yourself! "Am I thinking for myself?"

7:16PM PST on Jan 16, 2013


5:09PM PST on Jan 16, 2013

To think for ourselves is difficult for many and to think at all is impossible for most.
This article is about seperating who we truly are from what we think our identity is.
I think that journey requires a process of unthinking.

3:50PM PST on Jan 16, 2013

Good reminder. Thanks.

12:01PM PST on Jan 16, 2013

Hhmm...We are ALL one is the same as ourselves.That being so,it is impossible for others to think for us.....unless we allow a lie to live within us.There is nothing wrong with being led,as long as it is within the truth.And only we ourselves can decide what that truth is.I believe we are born into an existence to search for the I AM.When we find the answer to that,it is then we discover our real self.It is interesting to see the term " I am' used here.But we aren't the true reference to that.Jesus referred to Himself as the " I AM " Using it in the context He said it,we can see He meant He is ETERNAL GOD .Finding the I AM is then when we find who WE ARE. We don't loose our indentitiy but gain an ever learning growth of discovery in relationship with God,with other people and with ourselves.

10:22AM PST on Jan 16, 2013

After my divorce, a very wise older man taught me how to take the responsibility of thinking for myself. It was difficult as I had been married for 25 years and never lived alone. I never realized that I was NOT thinking for myself. Sometimes it takes an outsider to see what it a plain and obvious truth to others.

10:04AM PST on Jan 16, 2013


9:44AM PST on Jan 16, 2013

Very good article. thank you.

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