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Are We ‘Oversharing’ Our Parenthood?

Are We ‘Oversharing’ Our Parenthood?

Becoming a parent is, inarguably, the most meaningful and momentous thing someone could introduce into his or her life. And when you stop to consider how often people get together and have kids, it is also one of the most common and mundane things. As a parent, every utterance, emergency, and accomplishment in cuteness can feel like the most important thing ever…but certainly not everyone feels the same.

This has been demonstrated in the social media sphere where new (as well as seasoned parents) are often ignored, or even blocked, after they have shared just a bit too much. This can extend from the first ultra-sound well into the teen years (ski trip pics to shots of leg casts). And quite frankly, a good portion of the population is growing increasingly tired of all of this sharing, but they are just too polite to tell you.

If you are curious about such parental etiquette (and to be sure, this sort of over sharing doesn’t only happen online, it happens in the real world as well) you could check out STFU, Parents (you could probably figure out what the acronym means) which is a submission-based blog that endeavors to shine a light on grievous instances of parent over sharing online. The blog has become kind of a phenomenon, and (as with all successful blogs) has been spun off into a book aptly titled STFU, Parents. The author and creator of the blog Blair Koenig (who is not a parent) created the blog as a form of entertainment as well as “a guide for parents on what NOT to post about their kids as well as a forum for non-parents to vent about their TMI-related frustrations.” Recently, Koenig told the Atlantic Wire that her book is “a totally cohesive manual, an organized little etiquette guide and “a great baby shower gift.” Reading it can be a great reality check for sleep-deprived, anxious, and emotional parents: Before you hit submit on a Facebook post about an explosive diaper at 3 in the morning, ask yourself, “Would any of my friends submit this to STFU Parents?”

What is your feeling on parental over sharing? Do you feel that brutal candor is a welcome component within your online community? Do you want to know about your friend’s battles with potty training, school lotteries, and budding teen sexuality? Or is there such a thing as too much information when it comes to reporting on the specifics of parenthood?

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Eric Steinman

Eric Steinman is a freelance writer based in Rhinebeck, NY. He regularly writes about food, music, art, architecture, and culture and is a regular contributor to Bon Appétit among other publications.


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5:22PM PDT on Jul 22, 2013

Thank you Eric for the article and all of the good information, I enjoyed the comments from the care 2 members. My feeling on the subjest of oversharing is. For the immediate family, Mom, Dad, Sisters,Brothers, and Grand parents, there is never too much information, but keep it to talking, or showing pictures wnen asked. Never put on internet, facebook or any of those social networks, They start off with family and close friends, then some friend opens his or her facebook to a more general audience from work and such. You never know who is looking at these pages.and you will not want a pervert getting your kids pictures and or information. Do not put personal times where you and your family will be, some one may follow you or worst yet, get in your hoime while you are away. Do Not Share Personal Info, ever about where your kids go to school and playgrounds. Once you put any information out in cyberspace it is there for anyone to see forever.....period. Be careful and Safe, not sorry.

9:06AM PDT on Jun 16, 2013

KUDOS to all you dad who hang in there, day after day, often feeling unappreciated -- you'e not. This one's for you all, enjoy, and HAPPY FATHER'S DAY!

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4:15PM PDT on Jun 4, 2013

Some folks forget that the Earth evolves around the sun. Love pictures and snippets from friends, but don't need to know that you don't have anything to do all day other than spend time on facebook!

11:49AM PDT on May 15, 2013


8:50AM PDT on May 12, 2013

I agree that there are too many people oversharing about their personal business.

But parents seemed the worse....WE DONT WANT TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR KIDS!

8:04PM PDT on May 10, 2013

Oversharing is definitely a problem, and not just for parents. I blame social media...

6:31AM PDT on Apr 27, 2013

Thanks for the article, I think some people do overshare.. and not just about their children

12:18PM PDT on Apr 26, 2013

I'm not a parent haha, I don't mind when friends share pics on facebook though, I find it cute

7:54AM PDT on Apr 26, 2013


7:31AM PDT on Apr 26, 2013

noted, thanks for posting!

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