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Are You a Loser if You Don’t Have New Year’s Resolutions?

Are You a Loser if You Don’t Have New Year’s Resolutions?

Do you have any New Year’s resolutions? Uh, what’s that? No? Well there goes your 2012. Might as well kiss it goodbye. And if you’re the type of person who doesn’t have a list of New Year’s resolutions, you might as well kiss 2013, 2014, and the rest of your years on this planet adios.

You have to love this time of year. It’s where every so-called expert with a keyboard goes on and on about how important it is to set resolutions. Are we to believe this is the only time of year it makes sense to think about our future? And are we to believe that if we don’t have resolutions we are destined for a one-way ticket to Loserville?

Ask the first people you see today what their New Year’s resolutions are for 2012. You’ll hear a lot of generic double-talk nonsense that makes the “I want world peace” speech by Miss Universe sound coherent. Why?

Everyone feels obligated to have resolutions. Can you imagine the look of disgust and superiority if you answered, “Actually, I don’t have any New Year’s resolutions”? Well, I don’t have to imagine because that’s exactly how I answer the question. The immediate reply, “What do you mean you don’t have any New Year’s resolutions?!” It’s like I’ve stolen a box of Girl Scout Cookies.

Let’s be honest. You don’t like New Year’s resolutions because you know you won’t stick to them, but you feel moral/social pressure to have at least a few. Well, I’m telling you to stop feeling obligated! You don’t have to have any if you don’t want.

In fact, I think you’d be better off if you didn’t have New Year’s resolutions. Yes, I said it. You would be better off. Whenever your motivation is external (e.g., social obligation) and not internal (e.g., I really would like to improve…), the odds are stacked against you.

But what if you really want to make some positive changes in your life? Instead of coming up with a list of surface-level resolutions that sound good, let’s dig deeper and come up with a handful of very personal and highly motivating things that will inspire you to take action.

How can you quickly determine your most important goals for 2012? Answer this question:

Imagine it is 365 days from today; What must have happened for you to fee wildly successful financially, professionally, personally, socially, physically, emotionally, and spiritually?

That’s it! Answer that question honestly and you will have your road-map for 2012. You’ll know precisely where you need to end up for you to feel thrilled with your progress.

New Year’s resolutions are ephemeral because you won’t be invested in the outcome. When setting resolutions are a “to-do” list item, it’s no wonder most people give up (or forget) after a week.

Your answer to this question is powerful and motivating because it hits you at your core. It reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where Jerry and Elaine are trying to rent a car. Paraphrasing Seinfeld, anyone can set goals, but it’s achieving them that’s the most important part. And, of course, that’s true, but first focus on digging deep and getting a handful that really light your candle.

Next week we’ll talk about how to take your answers to that question and do something very special with them.

Worried about waiting a week? Don’t. Ninety percent of the people giving you a hard time about not having New Year’s resolutions will have forgotten them by next week while you’re just digging in…

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Robert Pagliarini

Robert Pagliarini is obsessed with improvement, making the most of his time and energy, and inspiring others to live life to the fullest by radically changing the way they invest their time and energy. He is the founder of, a community of passionate people who want to learn and achieve more in life and at work and the co-founder of The Band of Brothers Foundation, a non-profit helping kids around the world.


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7:34AM PST on Jan 28, 2013

Thanks,great posting.

5:59PM PST on Jan 29, 2012


2:46AM PST on Jan 6, 2012

A lot of my old resolutions were really life goals. Why set them only for the new year and then fall off the bicycle? So I decided they would stay life goals, such as eating healthier, being more physically active, etc... Sure, I fall off the bandwagon, but, life goes on all year around, so I'm free to get back on the bike. That way I don't have to be the loser who broke all my resolutions, because it's a daily activity.

7:39AM PST on Jan 4, 2012

I make resolutions, but I keep them real. That way I'm more likely to follow through with them.

1:03AM PST on Jan 4, 2012

I think you are a loser if you do have a resolution simply because although most are made with good intent in reality its just a way to make yourself feel good and unfortunately by the 3rd of the month you have forgotten you have made one. Much better just to do it without a resolution you are more likely to keep it.

6:51AM PST on Jan 1, 2012

I agree with you Robert! "Whenever your motivation is external (e.g., social obligation) and not internal (e.g., I really would like to improve…), the odds are stacked against you."
I think that when you decide to make a change in your life, make it, don't waste time till an "appropriate date."
I decided and STOPPED smoking within a week after 20 years!

2:46AM PST on Jan 1, 2012


1:24AM PST on Jan 1, 2012

Never do it, just try and live each day the best I can.

12:54AM PST on Jan 1, 2012

yep, deb m., you got it right

12:14AM PST on Jan 1, 2012

Deb M. i agree with you:D

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