By Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project via DivineCaroline
In one of my favorite movies, a quirky documentary called Shermanís March, the documentary makerís former high school teacher tells him, ďAs people get older, they get more like themselves. And youíre getting more boring.Ē Iíve never forgotten that.
Like most people, probably, I have several pet subjects that I love to talk aboutósubjects that are sometimes interesting to other people, and sometimes not. Donít get me started on happiness, or obesity, or childrenís literature, or Winston Churchill, unless you really want to talk about it. (I do manage to be very disciplined about not talking about my children too much.)
Iíve developed a list of signs to look foróindicators that I might be boring someone. Just because a person isnít actually walking away or changing the subject doesnít mean that that person is genuinely engaged in a conversation. One challenge is that the more socially adept a person is the better he or she is at hiding boredom. Itís a rare person, however, who can truly look fascinated while stifling a yawn.
These are the factors I watch when trying to figure out if Iím connecting with someone. Theyíre utterly unscientific; Iím sure someone has made a proper study of this, but these are just my observationsómostly from noting how I behave when Iím bored and trying to hide it.