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Loading...Are You Boring? 7 Clues
- Mel, selected from DivineCaroline
- May 30, 2010
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By Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project via DivineCaroline
In one of my favorite movies, a quirky documentary called Sherman’s March, the documentary maker’s former high school teacher tells him, “As people get older, they get more like themselves. And you’re getting more boring.” I’ve never forgotten that.
Like most people, probably, I have several pet subjects that I love to talk about—subjects that are sometimes interesting to other people, and sometimes not. Don’t get me started on happiness, or obesity, or children’s literature, or Winston Churchill, unless you really want to talk about it. (I do manage to be very disciplined about not talking about my children too much.)
I’ve developed a list of signs to look for—indicators that I might be boring someone. Just because a person isn’t actually walking away or changing the subject doesn’t mean that that person is genuinely engaged in a conversation. One challenge is that the more socially adept a person is the better he or she is at hiding boredom. It’s a rare person, however, who can truly look fascinated while stifling a yawn.
These are the factors I watch when trying to figure out if I’m connecting with someone. They’re utterly unscientific; I’m sure someone has made a proper study of this, but these are just my observations—mostly from noting how I behave when I’m bored and trying to hide it.
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I don't mind if anyone finds me boring. Really. But I wouldn't like to be seen as rude, which is why I try not to monopolise conversations! When someone is being repetitive, I do find myself saying 'Ah!' a lot. Must try to be less transparent...
Very interesting article....thanks
Learned this in psychology but I know someone I would like to read this article.
interesting
Definitely interesting... now I have an excuse to observe human behaviour. Thanks for sharing your observations; they seem spot on, if one can judge based on my personal experiences.
I do not find myslf boring. I find myself being myself.
If others find me boring then, I cannot change and not be myself for them.
I do often get bored when situations never change in my life, that then becomes boring.
Great article. Thank you Mel!!
hmmm. . .I will have to watch myself and others more closely to see if I'm or they are boring!
I tend to be the listener. Good article. I will be more aware in the future.
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