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Are You Boring? 7 Clues

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Are You Boring? 7 Clues

By Gretchen Rubin, The Happiness Project via DivineCaroline

In one of my favorite movies, a quirky documentary called Shermanís March, the documentary makerís former high school teacher tells him, ďAs people get older, they get more like themselves. And youíre getting more boring.Ē Iíve never forgotten that.

Like most people, probably, I have several pet subjects that I love to talk aboutósubjects that are sometimes interesting to other people, and sometimes not. Donít get me started on happiness, or obesity, or childrenís literature, or Winston Churchill, unless you really want to talk about it. (I do manage to be very disciplined about not talking about my children too much.)

Iíve developed a list of signs to look foróindicators that I might be boring someone. Just because a person isnít actually walking away or changing the subject doesnít mean that that person is genuinely engaged in a conversation. One challenge is that the more socially adept a person is the better he or she is at hiding boredom. Itís a rare person, however, who can truly look fascinated while stifling a yawn.

These are the factors I watch when trying to figure out if Iím connecting with someone. Theyíre utterly unscientific; Iím sure someone has made a proper study of this, but these are just my observationsómostly from noting how I behave when Iím bored and trying to hide it.

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10:23AM PDT on Oct 27, 2011


10:11AM PDT on Oct 27, 2011

I don't mind if anyone finds me boring. Really. But I wouldn't like to be seen as rude, which is why I try not to monopolise conversations! When someone is being repetitive, I do find myself saying 'Ah!' a lot. Must try to be less transparent...

9:17AM PDT on Jul 13, 2010

Very interesting article....thanks

2:31PM PDT on Jun 21, 2010

Learned this in psychology but I know someone I would like to read this article.

1:44PM PDT on Jun 18, 2010


11:27PM PDT on Jun 14, 2010

Definitely interesting... now I have an excuse to observe human behaviour. Thanks for sharing your observations; they seem spot on, if one can judge based on my personal experiences.

6:50AM PDT on Jun 8, 2010

I do not find myslf boring. I find myself being myself.
If others find me boring then, I cannot change and not be myself for them.
I do often get bored when situations never change in my life, that then becomes boring.

5:39AM PDT on Jun 8, 2010

Great article. Thank you Mel!!

3:59AM PDT on Jun 8, 2010

hmmm. . .I will have to watch myself and others more closely to see if I'm or they are boring!

8:33PM PDT on Jun 4, 2010

I tend to be the listener. Good article. I will be more aware in the future.

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