Are You Living in Fear?

Nicole Sachs shares why it’s time to stop living in fear of the little things.

There are many ways to live in fear. When we hear the word fear, many conjure images of death, destruction, abuse, abandonment…. Of course, all of these situations would likely cause fear to arise in most of us.

Fear’s power, however, is not limited to such severe conditions. In fact, I believe that fear’s greatest damage is done in the subtlest ways, oftentimes when no one’s even paying attention.

The little girl who sits on the bus so quietly, praying that she won’t be noticed, and bullied. The mother and father who regard their little boy playing in the playground, neither acknowledging the nagging notion that, “something’s not quite right with him.” The teenage girl who feels her heart race as she sits down to dinner with her family, terrified to eat too much, terrified to be seen eating too little…

We give so much energy to the big disasters in life, but often it’s the seemingly smaller damages that accompany us all of our days. As I grow up (finally) and have the courage to take a look at my oldest and deepest patterns in an attempt to know this girl who always flitted from one challenge to another, unscathed, I am taken by the power of the little things, or that which seemed little then.

I have lived a life that has been labeled, “Resilient,” “Brave,” “Strong.” Well, maybe so. But as I’ve been bold enough to take a really unabashed look at my truths, I’m realizing that those three words (as lovely as they are) are not the ones that most accurately personify this little journey I like to call the last 40 years. My word, if I’m to be honest, is fear. I’ve spent my whole life in a f’ing panic….Continue reading on

Nicole is a psychotherapist and the author of the groundbreaking book, The Meaning of Truth.

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Wendy H.
Wendy H.3 years ago

Living in fear~ keeps you in its prison.

Jody B.
Jody B.3 years ago

thank you!

Dimitris Dallis
Past Member 3 years ago

I believe we all live in a kind of fear. But some people use it and become more creative. You have at first to find the root of your fear...

Deborah W.
Deborah W.3 years ago

Fear confronted and working our way through it is very empowering.

GGma Sheila D.
GGmaSheila D.3 years ago

Fear - different things to different people. What one fears when a child differs from those of a teen, differs from those of an adult...fears are different in each region of our our country versus any each religion, belief, non-belief...

We all have fears, great and small. How we handle each fear defines us as individuals. It can also define us as separate groups - those abused as children, those children of alcoholics, those bullied, and so on...

Fears can define us as nations - the survivors of cannon-fire in the Civil War, the survivors the H-Bombs in Japan, those survivng bombs in Cambodia & Vietnam, those surviving bombs in Palestine, in Syria, in Afghanistan, and so on...and so on...

My personal fears seem petty when I look at these lists, however, my fears are large enough to stop me dead at times, to make me wake scared from nightmares in the daytime, because I am sometimes afraid to sleep in the dark, when all the bad things usually happen.

Fear is relative to each person, place, and time. All are real, no matter what others may think.

Denise Extence
Denise E.3 years ago

I totally understand this, thank you x

Duane B.
.3 years ago

Thank you for sharing.

Elena T.
Elena Poensgen3 years ago

Thank you :)

Eternal Gardener
Eternal Gardener3 years ago

All too true...

Lin M
Lin M3 years ago

I've got over so many fears but it seems impossible to be rid of them all. My heart goes out to anyone who lived like I used to. It's hard to work out a fear when you don't really know why you're afraid.