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Are You On A Slowly Sinking Ship?

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Are You On A Slowly Sinking Ship?

Does it feel like you’re going down?

Our lives are surrendering, slowly but inevitably, to the weight of all of that stuff–clutter, extra weight, financial strain, tired relationships, and over-committed schedules. We are too busy to play, too tired to create, too broke to get ahead, too skeptical to make a difference, and too bitter to make love. It seems that everybody I know is looking to make a change… or perhaps wishing for one is more accurate?

Yes, everybody wishes life could be different in some way but not all of us are ready to actually make the change. My clients hire me because they are ready to make a change, ready enough to invest in a life coach to support them and that’s a huge step.

Only the truly Wild Ones ever take this step but once you decide that, “It’s time for your life to bloom,” and hire me (or whoever is the best coach for you), the focus immediately shifts to the change, or often changes, you are ready to make. It may be a healthier body or to simplify your physical environment, to improve communication or find time for a creative dream. You may be ready to come out of the closet, or you feel completely lost and maybe you’re ready to find yourself again.

A majority of new clients include career on their list of things to they’d like to make a change, which makes sense because work touches so many parts of life. Also, because dissatisfaction in any area of one’s life can easily manifest a desperation to change another, clients sometimes come looking for a new job when what they really need is their spouse to stop drinking, or to lose 80 pounds, or to feel like their life has purpose. It’s almost comical really, how easily we blame something outside of us for misery that is rooted deep within us.

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Christy Diane Farr

Christy Diane Farr is a catalyst. If that sounds like something you want more of in your life, visit 'The Greenhouse' at and join the Wildflower Evolution on Facebook.


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3:22AM PST on Nov 13, 2011

I agree Heather, sometimes it's best to see if you can change your perspective on a situation before you try to change the situation itself. I know from experience that you can run as far as you want, but you can't run away from yourself, so if the problem is actually with you it's just going to follow you wherever you go.
Thanks for another thought provoking article Christy!

3:16AM PST on Nov 13, 2011

Thanks for sharing your insights Christy. As always a thought provoking read. I've tried jumping overboard before. It was painful and didn't work very well, but sometimes when you're desperate crazy things start looking reasonable. I'd like to think it was a learning experience and that I'm better at taking a step back to work through my problems now, but who knows really.

12:52AM PDT on Oct 7, 2011

In this present economic environment, I hardly think its advisable to jump ship work-wise. There's a simple saying I've read which says : "Wherever you go, there you are." The message being that one needs to change your attitude and outlook and you will see your job and your collegues in a different light.
My wise Mom used to put it this way: "When you can't change your circumstances, change the way you think about them." I carry her wisom with me always .....

8:38PM PDT on Oct 5, 2011

I'm standing on this here dock, watching for my boat... it's called the SS. Publisher's Clearinghouse. If anybody sees it, will you let me know as I'm heading to the bar to fetch a margarita! ; )

3:02PM PDT on Oct 5, 2011


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2:28PM PDT on Oct 5, 2011

Must remember not to jump to another ship with the same baggage or I will always have the same results. Going Under,,,
Yes getting rid of the baggage will keep me from sinking and ?or being able to move on to new ships

6:00AM PDT on Oct 5, 2011

Pardon me for calling you Diana, I am referring to Christy, who wrote this article.

5:56AM PDT on Oct 5, 2011

Diana, I choose the second option, when a job position is not working I bail out. You say; "the third option is the most organic...and it will certainly result in the most natural unfolding. When the situation we are in...can be considered a safe place from which we actually deal with ourselves, a beautiful life becomes possible."
Here's my problem I don't consider it to be a safe place otherwise obviously I would not 'abandon ship.'

2:15AM PDT on Oct 5, 2011

Well described. Thank you for posting.

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