Are You Pitting “I” Against “I”?

War is a vastly expanded version of “I” against “I.” Bigotry and prejudice depend upon the same conflict on a social level. Hatred in the name of God is actually disguised ego: Your God is unacceptable because he doesn’t agree with mine.

You do not have to participate in this clash of “I” against “I.” As your true self you feel contained in others; therefore you have no stake in protecting your own point of view. With that realization the source of conflict is healed.

Adapted from The Deeper Wound, by Deepak Chopra (Harmony Books, 2001).

56 comments

No Politics H.
Past Member 3 years ago

So often, perhaps more often than not, religion has nothing to do with God. It's all politics and special interest groups.

heather g.
heather g.3 years ago

When it comes to leadership, there certainly are strong egos involved in many countries. What I'm very aware of in Govt leadership, is the over-sensitivity to any criticism, the over-reaction and always fear and suspicion.
What type of world do we live in if the Dalia Lama is regarded as being controversial and a trouble-maker?

Miranda Parkinson

Very profound!

Mike and Janis B.

Hatred just indicates you haven't followed the mores of the particular religion you espouse. A bit stupid don't you think.

Gaby D.
Gaby D.3 years ago

Funny or perhaps not so funny - that we see that mood reflected even in our 'European Soccer Championships' - incredibly - all the national 'I's combine themselves into a collective 'we', only to combat the other collective 'I's combined into a 'national WE'. Yet, strangely, we do not seem to realize that we could just as easily trigger the 'I's 'true selves' to soar into a collective true self, an awareness that we are really ONE true self, one all there is. Yet, I realize now, that I found myself sliding into the 'ego I' again - when confronted with 'old family' stuff -that it not always so easy to resist being triggered, I need to be vigilantly aware of the 'triggers' that are all around me. The moment WE ALL become aware of all those 'triggers' that make us deviate from our TRUE SELF, the ALL that is....then perhaps, we will make war no more! Namaste.

Gaby D.
Gaby D.3 years ago

Ah Goodmorning Deepak and thank you for this post, and everyone else too for your comments! "You do not have to participate in this clash of “I” against “I.” As your true self you feel contained in others; therefore you have no stake in protecting your own point of view. With that realization the source of conflict is healed.

It is funny, or perhaps not so funny, that I know this to be true. And most of the time 'I' am aware of my true self and do feel 'connected' and contained in others, but leave it to me, the ego, to become agitated, hurt, angry, and upset when confronted with my 'old nuclear family'.
The one I grew up in? Whenever there is geographical distance between us....easy peasy.....I can be very enlightened and my 'true self' seems to be breezing thru - making light....and making it all easier. Lovely! Just whenever confronted with the 'very basic daily face -to- face stuff the ego 'I' still gets 'triggered' so easily - that it shocks me. Is that perhaps also a mechanism that lies at the root of most discord in the world, those times that we get triggered at a very 'basic' layer of our 'ego-self'?? Is that what governments use - to trigger us into 'war'?
Look at what is happening in Europe at the moment! The people of many nations are being triggered into 'the belief' that there is imminent danger from each other, the Euro is failing and the banks are falling, and even Nations are 'in danger of failing and falling'. Funny or perhaps not

Gaby D.
Gaby D.3 years ago

Ah Goodmorning Deepak and thank you for this post, and everyone else too for your comments! "You do not have to participate in this clash of “I” against “I.” As your true self you feel contained in others; therefore you have no stake in protecting your own point of view. With that realization the source of conflict is healed.

It is funny, or perhaps not so funny, that I know this to be true. And most of the time 'I' am aware of my true self and do feel 'connected' and contained in others, but leave it to me, the ego, to become agitated, hurt, angry, and upset when confronted with my 'old nuclear family'.
The one I grew up in? Whenever there is geographical distance between us....easy peasy.....I can be very enlightened and my 'true self' seems to be breezing thru - making light....and making it all easier. Lovely! Just whenever confronted with the 'very basic daily face -to- face stuff the ego 'I' still gets 'triggered' so easily - that it shocks me. Is that perhaps also a mechanism that lies at the root of most discord in the world, those times that we get triggered at a very 'basic' layer of our 'ego-self'?? Is that what governments use - to trigger us into 'war'?
Look at what is happening in Europe at the moment! The people of many nations are being triggered into 'the belief' that there is imminent danger from each other, the Euro is failing and the banks are falling, and even Nations are 'in danger of failing and falling'. Funny or perhaps not

Ros G.
Ros G.3 years ago

Walk the earth gently and touch everything lovingly as there just might be no God. Make our own Peace and Goodwill to all

Kathryn Fallon
Kathryn Fallon3 years ago

Perhaps this is too simplistic an outlook on war - after all how many wars start as a response to a basic survival instinct, for example the need for natural resources in which case a difference in religion etc. is used as an excuse.
I believe the urge to fight would be greatly reduced if basic resources such as food, land, and shelter were distributed more evenly worldwide. Once our basic needs are met then we would be in a better position to focus on our 'higher' selves ie. spiritual development...

Kathryn Fallon
Kathryn Fallon3 years ago

Perhaps this is too simplistic an outlook on war - how many wars are started as a response to a basic survival instinct, for example the need for natural resources, in which case a difference in religion etc. is merely used as an excuse.
If there was an even balance worldwide in the division of basic resources such as food, land and fuel, I believe the urge to fight for survival would be greatly reduced. Then we would be all free to focus on our 'higher' selves ie. spiritual development..