Are You Putting Your Happiness on Hold?

The moment my dad died, my life changed forever. It crystallized the sobering reality that tomorrow or even the next minute is not promised to anyone. I had heard that phrase many times in my life, but to witness my father take his last breath when I was only 20 years old made it come alive inside of me.

Although we cannot control when or how our story ends, we can maximize the time we have and create a beautiful story for our lives every single day. I am committed to get to the good part and not put my happiness on hold waiting for the chapter when everything is perfect.

That day may never come so we must create the happiness we seek by being present for each glorious moment. I have learned how to be all the way me and create the life I really want right now in spite of the challenges I face.

What I know for sure is that we cannot afford to leave room for regrets of “could have”, “should have”, or “would have”. Set your intention every morning when you wake to make each day rich and satisfying as if it were your last.

Tell the people you love that you love them every day, especially your children and significant other. Hug them and express the love you feel for them by your actions and not just your words.

Don’t give up on your dreams and settle for the rat race. It will kill your spirit. Life is more than just living for the weekend or in anticipation of a two week vacation every year. Life is about finding and fulfilling your God-given purpose which is not a luxury afforded only to a chosen few. It is a conscious decision we all must make to let our light shine. So find your way to illuminate the world.

When the challenges of life begin to overwhelm you, get a grip by taking the focus off of yourself. Consciously look around and pay attention to the problems that other people are facing. You will soon realize that you are better off than many and by counting your blessings instead of your problems you will find wealth.

If you need a self esteem boost, volunteer some time to your community. Giving back to help those that are in need provides a reward that builds authentic self esteem. It will remind you just how much your life matters and how you can make a positive difference in the lives of many.

Now move confidently in the direction of your dreams and live a life so full and complete that when your story ends you can peacefully say, “I did what I came to do and I don’t want anything more.”

Sandra Dubose-Gibson is the Bald Beauty Queen of Self Esteem, a motivational speaker, a singer and the author of My Crown and Glory, it’s NOT About the Hair. For more great inspiration, visit

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Panchali Yapa
Panchali Yapa1 years ago

Thank you

Alan Lambert
Alan Lambert2 years ago

This one actually helped me today, My mom passed 10 days ago and her birthday would have been Saturday so I'm really missing her today. Sending this on to our family

Janice Thompson
Janice Thompson2 years ago

Death is a hard thing to accept at any age.

Camilla Vaga
Camilla Vaga2 years ago


Christine W.
Christine W.2 years ago

Thanks for sharing.

Donna F.
Donna F.2 years ago

ty for this thought-provoking article

Tia T.
Tia R.2 years ago

This article couldn't have come at a better time for me. I am in the progress of making some MAJOR life changes that I know should be for the better but at the same time are terryfing because of the unknowns.

Camilla Vaga
Camilla Vaga2 years ago


Fi T.
Fi T.2 years ago

We can only helped by ourselves

Panchali Yapa
Panchali Yapa2 years ago

Thank you