On the morning of New Year’s Eve, I got the news that my husband had passed away. He left me and my eleven-month old son with $3,000,000 of debt.
Hearing the news I collapsed on the floor. That moment my 11 month old baby stood up on his feet for the first time, and used his tiny fingers to wipe away my tears.
He lost his father, and I just lost my best friend. One day I may find a new one, but no one can ever replace his father. But he didn’t think about himself, only about how to make his mother feel better. Learning from my son’s strength, I knew then that I had to stand strong for him and no matter what happens I knew that he is best thing that happened to me in my life.
I paid off my $3,000,000 debt in two years. People usually ask me how I paid off that much debt, and I always told them the story of the monkey and the peanuts:
When a farmer wants to catch a monkey, he hollows out a coconut and then fills that hollow space with peanuts. Eventually, a monkey comes along, wants the peanuts, and sticks its hand inside to get them. The hole in the coconut, however, isn’t large enough for the monkey to pull its enclosed fist back out. The monkey only has to let go of the peanuts to be free, but it doesn’t. The monkey becomes imprisoned by his desire for the peanuts, and the monkey’s inability to let go of the desire becomes its undoing.
How many times in our lives do we hold on to attachments that cause us to lose what we want most?
Finally, I was prepared to let go of everything just to pay off all my debt, to be debt free, and focus on making money instead of debt. I sold all my assets, land, companies, and shares at whatever price I was offered. You can always sell anything at any time, as long as you are prepared to accept what the buyers can afford.
The strange thing is that when you try to hold on, you tend to lose, but while your mind is carefree and prepared to let go, you gain. Things turn out to be on your side.
The secret is to keep observing your mind. Whenever you are attached to something too much, like the monkey was to his peanuts, just see your mind as if it belongs to someone else.
The moment you observe, you see your thoughts, feelings, and even the feeling of attachment as separate from you. In that moment you are free. And when you are free from inside, you can be free outside too.
Financial freedom and happiness is your birthright. Start observing your mind and exercise your right now.
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