Instructions belong in a board game box -- not in your romantic relationship. It's important to do things your own way -- and yes, that may include making your own mistakes. If other people are giving you unwanted advice, thank them. Then ignore them. They may have the very best intentions, but they are not you. Right now, you need to trust your intuition and follow your mood. Do what feels right and be prepared to live with (and grow from) the consequences.