Attachment Parenting: Good or Bad?

 

Time’s latest cover says it loud and clear: “Are You Mom Enough?” Coupled with an image of a young attractive mother breast feeding her three-year-old son, it’s no surprise that the article has sparked some heated debate.

Certainly, Time was looking for shock value on the cover — but what of the article itself? Well, it details the rising popularity of “attachment parenting.” Developed by Dr. William Sears, attachment parenting consists of three basic tenets,

1. Breastfeeding, sometimes well into toddlerhood.
2. Co-sleeping, or sharing a bed with your baby.
3. Baby wearing, of having your baby close to your body in a sling all the time.

Proponents of attachment parenting say that creating a bond between mother and child is crucial to the child’s development. They’ll turn out better prepared for life’s challenges than children who were not parented with this philosophy. They cry less. They turn out to be smarter. They’ll be more independent.

Criticisms abound, too. One major concern, for instance, is that attachment parenting takes a lot of time and work. Realistically, it can be quite taxing on working mothers — not every mother has the luxury of being a stay-at-home parent, or, as Dr. Sears has suggested, taking out a loan to avoid going back to work. What’s more, research into the superiority of attachment parenting over conventional parenting methods is not conclusive.

What do you think of attachment parenting? Have you practiced it yourself, or would you? Does it expect to much of mothers? Tell us your stories and give us your opinions in the comments section below!

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70 comments

Jo SICK
Jo S.1 years ago

Thanks for explaining, Katie.

Beth O'Brien
Beth O'Brien2 years ago

It's too much! What about teaching self-soothing, thus independence?

Dave C.
David C.2 years ago

odd

Amandine S.
Past Member 3 years ago

Thanks for sharing.

Kay Redmon
Kay Redmon3 years ago

I don't know to much about "parenting attachment" but I do think if you use your common sense in raising children, you can't go wrong. Love & discipline go hand in hand, you need to remind your children that your are the parent & expect respect from them not only to other people, but to you & even themselves. I don't think a three year old child needs to be breastfed, by that age they should be enjoying a full, nutritious diet. A child needs to mix with others to develop social skills to prepare them for their life ahead. What do you do, interrupt them at play or go to their pre-school so you can breast feed them ? Possibly they will still want to be breast fed by the time they attend school. As far as sleeping with parents, NO, it's not safe, I have had two friends lose children, because they slept with their parents, one was smothered & the other was fiercly attacked by the Father as a result of a terrible nightmare, brought on by Post Traumatic Stress after serving in the Army. This child died some hours later.I have witnessed the grief suffered by these parents who thought they were doing the right things from an article they read in a book on good parenting ?? Unfortunately, author unknown. This grief tradgically ended in suicide from a Father who blamed himself for the death of his only son. Something that could have been avoided. I realize this is only an isolated case, but accidents CAN & DO happen & everyone has the attitude of "it will never

Chrissie H.
Chrissie H.3 years ago

I had never heard of attachment parenting before and my children were not raised that way,but they have all grown into compassionate,independent,confident individuals,so each to their own. Whatever works for you is good.

Brenda Staerker-lewis
Brenda S.4 years ago

Attachment, Parenting, and Peer Interactions of Toddler Children
Beverly I. Fagot
University of Oregon and
Oregon Social Learning Center
This is a scientific study that was done on children who had been raised in this manner. You can read the full article using PsycNET, or go through your local library and utilize their research tools....this particular piece had to go in before the APA board prior to publication...what that means is that this study can be replicated which shows validity ( if it cannot be replicated and is falsified you should take content with a grain of salt- an example of a study that came out as false and which has been withdrawn completely is the study on Autism and immunizations- this study was shown to have been falsified, data was skewed, and well everyone involved in the study has now been "blacklisted" and will not be able to be published or perform research of that ilk and import ever again....)
anyway this article has been proven to be valid-
and I found its findings to be interesting....I would suggest that others look up "like" articles that have been peer reviewed and have been proven to be empirically proven

federico bortoletto

Vedremo.....

John S.
Past Member 4 years ago

Really?

Jane H.
Jane H.4 years ago

It souns ok, but only in moderation----