articles by: Dr. Bill Cloke

Why Alcohol Attracts Teenagers

It was the summer of 1957 when I pulled out the bottle of vodka that I had purloined from the place my alcoholic father had hidden it. He was a binger and when he drank he was a nightmare. So when he …

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The Truth About Monogamy

Imagine the scene: a newly married couple floating down the aisle all decked out in wedding attire, gushing with love and happiness as they glide effortlessly toward what appears to be a brilliant fut…

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How Valentine’s Day Can Ruin Your Relationship

Candlelit dinners replete with a fine bottle of wine, diamonds, roses or imported chocolates. NOTE TO MEN: If you haven't planned or purchased something from this list, you're more than likely going t…

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Why Do Good Men Cheat?

"It is necessary to the happiness of men that he be mentally faithful to himself. Infidelity does not consist in believing or disbelieving it consists in professing to believing what he does not belie…

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6 Ways to Administer Relationship First Aid

Jeri-Ann and Chas were having breakfast at their favorite restaurant on the beach one Sunday morning when an incident triggered a series of nuclear reactions. All those emotional neutrons and protons …

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5 Ways to Rebuild Trust After It’s Broken

"I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you." — Friedrich Nietzsche Laurie and Frank were high school sweethearts. They married young because Laurie became pre…

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Is Porn Addiction Bad for Relationships?

Janet and Ben came in for couples' therapy because she had caught him watching internet porn. He was looking at "Cheerleaders Gone Wild" videos, with girls who barely looked 18. To her it was a betray…

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4 Love Lessons from My No-Nonsense Feline

It's 5:30 AM and I am awakened by the swift moving thud of paws walking over my body to get to my side. Jake is purring like a '57 Chevy on steroids. As he thumps down next to me with his back up agai…

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How Do Men and Women Approach Problems?

When I am working with couples, the men may talk a lot about wanting to be appreciated and having a partner who can help them; they seem to want loyalty and they want to engage in activities like hiki…

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How Conflict Can Create Love

We fade in on a couple sitting quietly at Sunday morning breakfast. Suddenly, a seemingly innocuous comment swiftly shifts the peaceful mood into prodigious conflict. She: Could you be more careful w…

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Dr. Bill Cloke has worked with individuals and couples for 30 years. He received a master’s degree in education from the University of Southern California and holds a PhD in psychology from California Graduate Institute. A frequent talk-radio and TV psychologist, he is also a contributor to PsychologyToday.com and other popular websites and has lectured at UCLA. Bill Cloke lives with his wife in Los Angeles. To learn more about Bill Cloke, and for more resources on creating healthy, happy relationships, visit happytogetherbook.com.

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