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Be Your Own Best Friend

Be Your Own Best Friend

It’s been said that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself. And that definitely makes sense if you realize that there’s only one person you’re guaranteed to spend every moment with (hint: it’s you!).

Your relationship with yourself is dynamic; you are constantly growing and learning. You can live an entire lifetime and still not know everything there is to know about yourself. One of the best parts about life is that there are always moments when you can surprise yourself.

That’s why it’s so important to treat yourself well by spending quality time alone. This can be more difficult than it seems, especially when life has its demands and keeps you busy. How do you take time for yourself when you have work, family, and friends competing for what little time you have? And when you do have some free time, keeping it to yourself can feel a little selfish.

And yet, when we fail to nurture the relationship we have with ourselves, we are bound to get into a rut. Without time to focus on who we are, we begin to live in our own version of “Groundhog Day.”

As soon as you start to feel tired of seeing, saying, and doing the same old things, you know that it’s time to shake things up. The best way to do this is by being a friend to yourself. That same kindness that you show people around you? Show some to yourself. Hang out with yourself and don’t feel guilty about it. Go see that movie you want to see or try a different flavor of ice cream or read that book that everyone’s been talking about. Go for a walk, write a song, or treat yourself to a massage.

It’s not necessarily about what you do, but about giving yourself permission to treat yourself well once in a while — and not feel guilty about it. Start taking steps to make sure you’re the best friend to yourself that you can be — keeping in mind that a little kindness goes a long way.


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Erika Oglesby

Erika Oglesby is a freelance writer and wandering nomad currently located in Grand Rapids, MI. She is dedicated to helping people better their lives through self-knowledge and alternative therapies -- especially women of color and women diagnosed with autoimmune diseases. Visit her website at


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9:38AM PST on Dec 29, 2012

Thank you for information

4:17AM PDT on Oct 8, 2012

Hard but i'll give it a try...nice article

4:17AM PDT on Oct 8, 2012

Hard but i'll give it a try...nice article

4:17AM PDT on Oct 8, 2012

Hard but i'll give it a try...nice article

6:53AM PDT on Aug 24, 2012

a very motivating and magnificent article to help us love ourselves.

2:22AM PDT on Aug 16, 2012

Interesting, thanks for the info!

2:35AM PDT on Jun 3, 2012

I am my own best friend every night after my hubby goes to bed. I get on the computer and I get so involved, I forget how long I have been on.

Of course I am never really alone since at least one of the five cats come to sit on my desk or my lap (LOL).

6:23AM PDT on Apr 19, 2012

Fine advice.

12:10PM PDT on Apr 2, 2012

Love this post---it is very true, and I feel lucky to have the time to do this in retirement.

12:04PM PDT on Apr 2, 2012

I do understand that treating yourself well in important to how you relate to others around you, but its also important to know that you need to focus on doing things that makes you happy, when you are alone. Escaping into a book because you don't want to deal with the reality around you isn't going to help get you out of that rut, though it may help you cope with it better.

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