I don’t know about you, but when I became a mom I also became more self-critical. It was as if when I gave birth to my daughter, I also gave birth to a new clan of Inner Critics whose mission was to create a swirl of negative thoughts in my head. I like to call these addictive negative thoughts Big Fat Lies. And Christine Arylo and I like to call that Inner Critic your Inner Mean Girl.
I’m also a life coach, so I’ve coached hundreds of moms and have witnessed firsthand how they become their own worst enemy. After more than a decade of coaching moms from every walk of life (from CEO moms to stay at home moms to mompreneurs) I finally got it: we are all hard on ourselves despite appearances. I am not alone (and neither are you!).
Our Inner Mean Girls beat us up for both the big things and for the tiniest imperfections. And all this punishment isn’t helping us be better moms or feel more fulfilled or even to get more done.
Who can blame us for being so hard on ourselves? We have a lot on our plates: kids, careers, romance, health . . . the list goes on and on. We’re supposed to bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, have incredible sex with our partners (never letting him forget he’s a man — that is, assuming he is a man), get the laundry and housework done, have healthy, accomplished kids, and a tight butt and perky boobs to boot. We feel like we’re supposed to enjoy being pulled in a million directions at the same time. And that we’re supposed to be as flexible as Gumby on muscle relaxers. But we’re only human.
What would happen if we gave ourselves a break?
To get started, see if any of these Top Three Big Fat Lies of your Inner Mean Girl sound familiar and then go easy on yourself by tapping into the truth:
The more you recognize your Inner Mean Girl and her Big Fat Lies and tap more into the compassionate truth, the more you’ll increase self-love, self-esteem and self-respect. And what better gift can we give our kids than to model that?
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Want to get started on transforming your Inner Mean Girl?
Join me and Christine Arylo on June 30th for the Inner Mean Girl Reform School free open house call called Stop the Critical Voice in Your Head from Being So Hard On You… & Start Feeling Truly Successful & Happy, Now! You’ll learn the three keys to reforming your Inner Mean Girl!
CLICK here to register for free: http://innermeangirl.com/moms-tele-jam-call
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Amy Ahlers the Wake-Up Call Coach, is on a mission to wake up your Inner Superstar so you can shine bright. She is a celebrated International Certified Success Coach, the CEO of Wake-Up Call Coaching the co-creator of Inner Mean Girl Reform School. Amy has been a featured expert on lots of TV & radio shows, and for publications & blogs like The Washington Post and The Huffington Post. Her first book, Big Fat Lies Women Tell Themselves: Ditch your Inner Critic and Wake Up Your Inner Superstar (New World Library) shot up to #1 in tons of categories on Amazon, including Self-Help, Happiness and Self-Esteem. She resides in the SF Bay Area, is married to the love of her life, Rob, the proud mom of their 4-year old daughter, Annabella, and loves to hike in the hills with their relentlessly eager mutt, Dozer. You can visit her online at www.wakeupcallcoach.com.
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