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Breast is Best (As Long as We Don’t See it)!

Breast is Best (As Long as We Don’t See it)!

Feeding a baby involves nipples. Either artificial ones made from I-hope-they-are-not-toxic chemicals, or the real thing. As in a woman’s nipples.

Sadly, it’s the real thing that makes many people uncomfortable. Facebook has dubbed “obscene” and removed unknown numbers of breastfeeding images, and the infamous Sesame Street has replaced scenes of breastfeeding with bottle feeding. And while over 234,000 have protested these actions, even companies focused on healthy, nontoxic living showcase 100% of a latex nipple attached to a bottle, while nowhere show even 1% of a real, living nipple feeding a baby the way humans are meant to.

As a culture with a breastfeeding deficit, perhaps the majority does not understand that when a baby latches onto a breast, some fraction of the areola is almost certainly going to show. This could be why publishers unknowingly hinder the normalization of breastfeeding with rules specifying how much of a nursing breast can appear in an image, excluding, “any part of the nipple.” Yet, rules like this effectively prevent people from passing on the healthy knowledge of what a normal latched infant looks like. In addition, they keep breastfeeding on the periphery of acceptable social behaviors: “Breast is best, BUT don’t let me see your nipples!”

As a breastfeeding mom, I try to be discreet feeding my babies (as do all the mothers I know). Yet, if someone is looking directly at my baby latched to my breast, he/she will see some part of the areola, classified as “part of the nipple.” And while nature designed the nipple to look like a bullseye so babies could catch it, for most of our culture it marks a very different spot.

This is a spot that makes the new mother, perhaps not a particularly outgoing mother, perhaps one that feels a bit self-conscious anyway, feel very nervous feeding her baby where others can see. How many times has society’s refusal to celebrate and normalize images of healthfully latched babies contributed to a mother giving up, uncomfortable feeding her baby anywhere but her home?

To alleviate this discomfort, now for sale are the increasingly common boob burkas designed to hide the nursing baby and breast from public. Perhaps they help some mothers feel safer nursing in public, but these “aids” also help seal the secret, increase the mystery of the nursing babe. Is it possible that one day, nursing will only be allowed in private breastfeeding rooms unless you don the Hooter Hider? Maybe we should ask the women in Afghanistan – I wonder if they foresaw the current requisite attire for women in their country.

One might argue, “but things are getting so much better.” “Everyone is stressing the importance of Breast is Best.” And even, “The breastfeeding militia is forcing the breast on everyone!” But look European paintings from the 1200′s-1800′s that include women breastfeeding – you can even see Virgin Mary’s nipple! These were times when women were clad from head to toe in clothing, yet they popped out their breast to feed their babies. And the painters sharing this history had no qualms about what fraction of the nipple was exposed.

It had to start somewhere, this forced covering of a woman’s body. Women in Afghanistan wear burkas to hide their entire body. Conversely, but equally sexually, Americans highlight the flat chests of 4-year-olds with pink triangle bikinis. We feature cleavage in woman’s worksuit attire. So hail the plastic nursing nipple, for it allows us to claim the woman’s body for one exclusive purpose: sexual arousal. We can almost forget that Mother Nature intended her breast to nourish. Almost, but not quite because the plastic nipple still holds that pesky shape, which looks remarkably…nipple-like.

When a woman’s body becomes more about sex than anything else, it limits what a woman can do. It becomes something she uses to attract and please others, something others want to control. I grew up on the Southern California coast, playing my socially acceptable role as a bikini-clad teen shrieking down the beach on episodes of Baywatch. After years of encouraging my own objectification, I’ve been pleasantly surprised by the empowerment I’ve experienced using my body for nourishment as a mother. And while this might not be everyone’s experience, why do we allow society to dictate but one singular purpose for all of our female bodies? When a woman is empowered to use her own body to nourish her children, it puts her in charge. Does this scare people?

Each of us can do our part to make the nursing mother feel safe and confident feeding her baby by normalizing images of breastfeeding. Or, we can hide the nursing mother, heightening the mystery and even shame associated with her nursing breasts. It strikes me that we as a culture might need to address our obsession with breasts as purely sexual “objects” to make reasonable progress. What do you think?

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Hilary Stamper has spent the last nine years focused on environmental advocacy. With the birth of her first child, she also began advocating for birthing and breastfeeding mothers, attempting to help them feel empowered by their birth experiences and build confidence as new parents. Now living in Half Moon Bay, CA with her husband and two homebirthed children ages 2 and 5, Hilary spends the majority of her time focused on green parenting and connecting children with nature.

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4:29AM PST on Jan 13, 2014

thank you

12:09PM PST on Nov 19, 2012

i fail to understand how this even continues to be an issue, breast feeding is the paramount of normalicy for nursing a small human mammal, as normal as an older child having a sandwhich while out with their caregiver. you wouldnt batt an eye at the older one, why would the nursing infant leave you feeling uncomfortable....oh, right, because somewhere along the path of your life you were taught that a breasts primary function was something sexual. were we not mammals, with mammary glands exclusively evolved for nursing young we wouldnt have breasts, or nipples. just to put their primary function into perspective.

1:28PM PST on Nov 18, 2012

I meant to type "people shopping"

1:26PM PST on Nov 18, 2012

I think when a woman can she should breast feed in private. I never did it in public infront of people. When I knew i was going to be in public i pre pumped and fed my kids with a bottle.
pe shopping and doing other things in public feel uncomfortable when someone whips out theiob.

12:57AM PDT on Oct 15, 2012

Thank you.

12:56AM PDT on Oct 15, 2012

Thank you.

8:46AM PDT on Aug 11, 2012

Valentina, I waited a day to respond to this so that ma anger dissipated and I could respond only upon reflection. Please ay careful attention.

Lyn said “Breast feeding is beautiful but so is sex and both should be done in private”

I responded “How about "Breast feeding is beautiful, but so is music, and both should be done in private."?

I was trying to make precisely the point to Lyn that you tried to make to me, that equating sex with breastfeeding makes zero sense.

The difference is I was targeting the correct person and you were not. And all you could do was repeat back to me almost word for word what I said to Lyn, but with added insult and, again, to the wrong person.

I don’t know how you could have so grossly misunderstood the communication that was occurring here. There are many possible explanations – none of them very flattering to you - but I have no way of knowing which is the case.

How you respond to this situation will speak loudly to me, to others who read this, perhaps to you yourself – about who you are and how much character you really have. This may very well be a defining moment in your young life. (p.s. no response or disappearing will speak volumes, too).

You might in the future, perhaps read more carefully, or give people the benefit of the doubt; if you looked at my profile, for example, you might see that we have very similar world views and that might suggest some things to you about what I m

8:46AM PDT on Aug 11, 2012

Valentina, I waited a day to respond to this so that ma anger dissipated and I could respond only upon reflection. Please ay careful attention.

Lyn said “Breast feeding is beautiful but so is sex and both should be done in private”

I responded “How about "Breast feeding is beautiful, but so is music, and both should be done in private."?

I was trying to make precisely the point to Lyn that you tried to make to me, that equating sex with breastfeeding makes zero sense.

The difference is I was targeting the correct person and you were not. And all you could do was repeat back to me almost word for word what I said to Lyn, but with added insult and, again, to the wrong person.

I don’t know how you could have so grossly misunderstood the communication that was occurring here. There are many possible explanations – none of them very flattering to you - but I have no way of knowing which is the case.

How you respond to this situation will speak loudly to me, to others who read this, perhaps to you yourself – about who you are and how much character you really have. This may very well be a defining moment in your young life. (p.s. no response or disappearing will speak volumes, too).

You might in the future, perhaps read more carefully, or give people the benefit of the doubt; if you looked at my profile, for example, you might see that we have very similar world views and that might suggest some things to you about what I m

6:08PM PDT on Aug 8, 2012

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Barry, how about "masturbating is pleasant and natural, therefore you can do it in public"? Because your example makes as much sense as mine, which is zero. Hopefully you will realize that your laughable attempt at being witty and superior was, in fact, very pathetic. Having a brain is about being able to turn it on and checking if what you are about to say is reasonable, instead of spitting out every silly little thing you can think of.

6:07PM PDT on Aug 8, 2012

Lyn V: "Breast feeding is beautiful, but so is sex, and both should be done in private."

Helen B: "I am soooo tired of the big badge of honor of the breast feeding mothers. Get over yourselves. My baby got hungry when we were out I took him home to feed him in a relaxed place. And for some reason breast fed babies are fed until they are wayyy to old. No one wants to watch a kid walk up to his mother and ask for boob or watch him pick up his mothers shirt something I have seen way to much. older people and men do not want to see you forcing your way on them.your choice. stop acting like this is a huge movement for world peace or something. private moment for you and your baby - private."

For sure. Get a real cause, women. Breasts are breasts, and breasfeeding not a "way of life" to incessantly whine about every freaking minute. Psst, no one cares about your boobs.

Kathy P: "People who are offended by breastfeeding are prudes who can't respect what nature intended. If my child can't eat in public, than neither should you. Grow up people..."

lololol. Claiming to deserve respect without not showing any. How immature and arrogant can people be?

Barry T: "Lyn, how about "Breast feeding is beautiful, but so is music, and both should be done in private"? Hopefully you can see that your attempt to be witty was, in fact, rather pathetic. Being well thought out is about taking the moment to work through your logic and make sure it really is sound, before saying it publicl

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