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Our bodies offer us oodles of feedback that we can use to make better decisions. If we are in danger, we don’t just get the intuitive whispers. We get body signals, too. Our stomachs churn, our chests tighten, and our hearts race. Our body is attempting to guide us, encouraging us to do something different.

Too often we are so wrapped up in our heads that we dismiss the signals. Sometimes, we don’t notice them at all. We take careless action. We allow ourselves to stay in a dangerous situation because we didn’t experience the warning shots our body sent to get our attention.

For years, my internal battle about food went like this. I want cake. You don’t need cake. Yes, I do. I really need cake. Whatever, nobody “needs” cake. Okay, but I want cake. I really, really, really want cake. Christy, you say you want cake but you also want to be healthy, and you want to be thin, and you want to be the kind of person who doesn’t eat cake. That’s true. I do say all of those things but right now, I’m having a very real craving. My body wants cake. I want cake.

Eventually, I ate cake, or whatever else the sugary, or greasy, or salty craving called for in that moment. I battled with myself a great deal. I lost tremendous amounts of energy, sanity, and self-respect in that battle. It almost cost me my life.

But I knew it wasn’t working. I didn’t want to live that way. So, I searched for ways to understand my relationship with food, to understand why I was using it in the same way that other people use alcohol. I’ve been unpacking this trunk for literally a decade through therapy, 12-step programs, life coaching, and even a nutritional counselor. I’ve studied, written, talked, and cried my way through a massive transformation around my relationship with food.

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Christy Diane Farr is a catalyst. If that sounds like something you want more of in your life, visit 'The Greenhouse' at and join the Wildflower Evolution on Facebook.


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5:30AM PST on Jan 26, 2013


1:13PM PDT on May 17, 2012

Hmmm... not at all what I was expecting (something about breathing, perhaps?), but I guess this was good advice about impulse control.

5:10PM PDT on May 16, 2012

I do this a lot and it helps me tremendously. Thanks for the reminder and sharing good knowledge.

7:06AM PDT on May 13, 2012

Difficult to do, but it really helps

11:00PM PDT on May 11, 2012

Nice piece - thank you.
Getting the mind to quiet is quite a challenge, but wonderful when it succeeds.

8:49PM PDT on May 11, 2012

Very good article. Makes us think. Thanks

7:08PM PDT on May 11, 2012

Thanks for sharing.

6:38PM PDT on May 11, 2012

wonderful article, thanks

3:35PM PDT on May 11, 2012

Fantastic! This is exactly what I needed to read and made me feel brilliant about my own journey with Slimming World :) There are so many websites with negative outlooks on food and body image, it's wonderful to have a positive and enlightened view for a change :)

2:24PM PDT on May 11, 2012

ive been working more on breathing exercises, esp after a stressful day, and it makes a big difference

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