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Can Women Have it All?

Can Women Have it All?

I had a fascinating conversation with a co-worker last week about the idea that women can have it all. We can have high-powered careers and be dedicated to spending time with our families. I believe this is true to an extent, but neither men nor women can find true balance if they consider work to be significantly more important or pressing than other areas of life.

Many people in powerful positions are required to work extremely long hours and travel often. That effectively makes it impossible to be the kind of parent most of us want to be. Again, this is true for both men and women. What is important is balance. We must make time for family, friends, and outside interests.

The real issue here is not whether women can have it all. What we should be asking ourselves is whether, as a society, we place too much importance on work. And whether we compensate our workers fairly. Many men and women are overly ambitious when it comes to career because this is what our culture praises. And many others are forced to work long hours just to make ends meet. We need to reassess our priorities in order to work towards a society that facilitates a healthy work-life balance.


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Sarah Cooke is a writer living in California. She is interested in organic food and green living. Sarah holds an M.F.A. in Creative Writing from Naropa University, an M.A. in Humanities from NYU, and a B.A. in Political Science from Loyola Marymount University. She has written for a number of publications, and she studied Pastry Arts at the Institute for Culinary Education. Her interests include running, yoga, baking, and poetry. Read more on her blog.


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8:46AM PDT on Jul 31, 2012

and? How do you propose to do this?

1:04PM PDT on Jul 5, 2012

And Silas G. how do you propose to pay for being at home more? and less work?
Will you give up your i-phone? internet? lattes?
tell me sweetheart how do you do that?

12:58PM PDT on Jul 5, 2012

steve l... haha, no manipulation, i am sorry for your relationships...

12:55PM PDT on Jul 5, 2012

If you have kids they should be your number 1 priority. If you are a parent your kids come first! sorry I was on a rant~~

12:52PM PDT on Jul 5, 2012

I think No. I grew up in the 70's yeah womens right's and all that. I am a woman who really is annoyed by all that BS. Growing up I was lower lower middle class...and telling me back then that I was able to do what ever....did not help me in the least. No one encouraged me to study science or math...ecology and nature studies~~~yeah BS.
I made the decision to not have children because (OMG) I could not afford them!!!

All in all women/wymyn whatever you want to call yourselves. WAKE UP. NO you can't do it all. I know, believe me I know that I want to. And I know I can! what is most important?

9:01AM PDT on Jun 30, 2012

Thank you for this informative article

4:37AM PDT on Jun 30, 2012

May I second Silas G.excellent post? It seems to me that the Op Ed that started this conversation negated what her partner brought to the mix. That's sad, both partners can do a great job raising the family.

6:31PM PDT on Jun 29, 2012

I suspect that NO ONE can have it all.
However, can a woman be a good mother and/or wife, and have a fulfilling career?
Absolutely, but the balancing act is quite arduous.
It all centers around co-operation within the family structure. If there is solidarity among the members, obviously, success is more prevalent.

1:36PM PDT on Jun 29, 2012

I guess you can have it all when you are wealthy. Most low income people I know are too tired to have it all since they can't afford to hire help.

10:34AM PDT on Jun 29, 2012

Women already do have it all. Society allows them to manipulate men with sex to give them anything they want (and, of course, they hypocritically deny their chosen behavior). We live in a very sexist society, entirely biased toward women.

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